Thank you everyone for your feedback and comments! I'm back, and I've been thinking about what you've all said here for a while now. Well, I am happy to report that after a few months of being together, he is starting to become more affectionate and loving in our relationship - affectionate in his own way, but definitely a marked improvement. I discovered the answer here - NOT fighting fire with fire, or in this case, coldness with coldness. I did a little introspection and realized that I was matching him tit for tat, and would withdraw from him out of pride and a severely hurt ego everytime I felt him becoming detached and cold. Now I tried a different strategy, and "fought" his detachment with light-hearted and freely given affection without expectations. And wouldn't you know, it WORKED. As the bible did say, "When someone smites you in the right cheek, offer them the left" (or something like it). Haha! Well, this is making a Christian out of me I suppose. Thanks everyone!
Is my bf shy, unique, or does he have asperger's?
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Thank you everyone for your feedback and comments! I'm back, and I've been thinking about what you've all said here for a while now. Well, I am happy to report that after a few months of being together, he is starting to become more affectionate and loving in our relationship - affectionate in his own way, but definitely a marked improvement. I discovered the answer here - NOT fighting fire with fire, or in this case, coldness with coldness. I did a little introspection and realized that I was matching him tit for tat, and would withdraw from him out of pride and a severely hurt ego everytime I felt him becoming detached and cold. Now I tried a different strategy, and "fought" his detachment with light-hearted and freely given affection without expectations. And wouldn't you know, it WORKED. As the bible did say, "When someone smites you in the right cheek, offer them the left" (or something like it). Haha! Well, this is making a Christian out of me I suppose. Thanks everyone!