It's perfectly normal, but that's not the issue. The issue isn't whether or not you want to be pregnant. The issue is whether or not you want to be someone's mom. That's a little different.
The best person to approach about this is someone who's already been there. Now, I don't mean for you to go flying up to your mom and start a Maury style screaming match with her. I mean ask her what it's like. What was it like when you were a baby? What was it like being pregnant? Was she scared? What about her life had to change? What is it like being a mom now? What would she do different?
Do the research. You might find that you really don't want to be anybody's mom right now, even if you want to get pregnant.
And trust me, you're mistaken about the mother-child bond being strengthened by your young age. It doesn't work that way. It's not like getting a new baby sister or brother. You absolutely *have* to be a competent adult in order to have a bond with your baby.
I didn't have my first kid until I was 28. You totally have time, and every day you're able to wait is one day of experience you gain on your child's behalf. That baby doesn't need you to be a baby yourself. That baby is going to need you to be a grown woman, and if you do the soul searching and find that it's not time yet, please do yourself and your baby the grace of waiting.
You deserve to get the experience you're going to need to raise a child (it's *hard*), and your child deserves a mother with all the experience she can get.
Is it weird that I want to be pregnant?
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It's perfectly normal, but that's not the issue. The issue isn't whether or not you want to be pregnant. The issue is whether or not you want to be someone's mom. That's a little different.
The best person to approach about this is someone who's already been there. Now, I don't mean for you to go flying up to your mom and start a Maury style screaming match with her. I mean ask her what it's like. What was it like when you were a baby? What was it like being pregnant? Was she scared? What about her life had to change? What is it like being a mom now? What would she do different?
Do the research. You might find that you really don't want to be anybody's mom right now, even if you want to get pregnant.
And trust me, you're mistaken about the mother-child bond being strengthened by your young age. It doesn't work that way. It's not like getting a new baby sister or brother. You absolutely *have* to be a competent adult in order to have a bond with your baby.
I didn't have my first kid until I was 28. You totally have time, and every day you're able to wait is one day of experience you gain on your child's behalf. That baby doesn't need you to be a baby yourself. That baby is going to need you to be a grown woman, and if you do the soul searching and find that it's not time yet, please do yourself and your baby the grace of waiting.
You deserve to get the experience you're going to need to raise a child (it's *hard*), and your child deserves a mother with all the experience she can get.