Is it sexual abuse if it happens between children of the same age?

When I was around 3-5 years old
I have memories of me in my kindergarten being taken forcefully into this fort built by some of the boys who were a little older than me, maybe by a year or two. Some might've been the same age. I remember them pinning me down and taking my clothes off and I am about 70% sure they forcefully put objects with me. I was too embarrassed and confused to say anything, at least that's how I remember it, and I remember once my parents came to pick me up early and got me out of there when they were about to do something. I was very relieved when my parents did this although this happened multiple times. I'm not sure if they knew the extent of which these boys went to but I know that they knew the nature of what these boys were doing and they have mentioned it in the not so distant past, proving that this isn't a falsely recalled memory. I remember these boys showing me their penis as well but I don't know if they did anything with it o me. I remember the forcing me to touch it but I don't know if I went further than that. Is this still considered sexual abuse? I think i am a little traumatized about it but its not limiting me of anything, not that I've noticed anyway.

Is It Normal?
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  • "Is it sexual abuse if it happens between children of the same age?"

    Child molestation is age-based.
    Sexual abuse itself however is not based on age.

    So to answer your question - yes, that was sexual abuse. Even if you were all of age, it would still be sexual abuse.

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  • it's abuse

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  • If it was done without your consent, it's abuse. Age doesn't even come into play, they did something you didn't want them to do and that's all it takes.

    I'm sorry this happened to you. :( Those kids sound absolutely fucked.

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  • Another thing I remember a couple of weeks after that incident my 2 friends were hit by a car walking home. Kindergarten and that whole year sucked.

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  • When I was in kindergarten this older Guy in our apartments came up to me and my friends and said he would give us all a ride on his bike. Well I was the first 1 to jump on the handlebars. I remember him riding real far and crossing a busy road. We ended up stopping in this dark Creek, I remember crying and being really scared.. I don't remember much after that but I didn't tell anyone. I do remember he made me do things I didn't like. I eventually told somebody that I trusted. I think if you do that honestly it will all fade away.

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  • I voted normal meaning,its normal for you to feel abused by this. Its terrible this happened,I believe its abuse.

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  • Yeah I consider it abuse because they didn't have your consent. I remember when I was about seven the boys in my class were always trying to put the girls on tables and simulate love making. I always fought back with chairs and all I could grab. The same thing happened when I was in college - I was about fifteen then. The boys would try to touch and the girls found this funny. I always made it that I didn't play this game. I hate that so many girls get abused at school. That really really sucks!

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