The way you are going about this is weird. If you actually cared about your average/poor friends you would want them to attend and either have a more suitable wedding or pay for their trip.
But I know it is your wedding day so you want to do the dream wedding.
In this scenario, you have to opt for a smaller guest list. It sounds like you are okay with most of the guest not showing up, so why invite them in the first place? If you want to have a small get-away wedding, then do it. Don't send out a ton of invites to people you don't even need to be there.
You CAN have a separate/small celebration back home for everyone.
Go to Europe with a couple relatives for destination-wedding, then plan a small celebration of your marriage when you get back.
Lots of people opt for small/destination weddings, and it's not rude. Other people may try to say "you should have had the wedding here so I could have come" but they have to understand it's your dream wedding and they should support what you want.
I am poor among poor and it's pretty darn heartbreaking to get an invite to a wedding from someone that says "Formal, No kids, etc" When you're a poor family with 6 kids and can't afford to rent a suit. It really makes you feel like they don't need you there so why did they send an invite in the first place... very superficial and un-caring.
Is it rude to send invites to a wedding you KNOW people can't attend
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The way you are going about this is weird. If you actually cared about your average/poor friends you would want them to attend and either have a more suitable wedding or pay for their trip.
But I know it is your wedding day so you want to do the dream wedding.
In this scenario, you have to opt for a smaller guest list. It sounds like you are okay with most of the guest not showing up, so why invite them in the first place? If you want to have a small get-away wedding, then do it. Don't send out a ton of invites to people you don't even need to be there.
You CAN have a separate/small celebration back home for everyone.
Go to Europe with a couple relatives for destination-wedding, then plan a small celebration of your marriage when you get back.
Lots of people opt for small/destination weddings, and it's not rude. Other people may try to say "you should have had the wedding here so I could have come" but they have to understand it's your dream wedding and they should support what you want.
I am poor among poor and it's pretty darn heartbreaking to get an invite to a wedding from someone that says "Formal, No kids, etc" When you're a poor family with 6 kids and can't afford to rent a suit. It really makes you feel like they don't need you there so why did they send an invite in the first place... very superficial and un-caring.