These are all just my solutions. The most important part of the whole philosophy is doing it yourself.
On hair, you could go for an unnatural colour or bizarre style. At the moment I do both - my hair is blue and bleached blonde, and shaved into a floppy Mohawk. Hair is very conspicuous, so changing it is synonymous with making a bold statement which you might or might not want to do. If what you want is positive attention then good news: you'll probably get it. Every time I do something new with my hair I get attention for it and the vast majority of it is positive.
With clothes it's harder to break away from the norm. You could look at subcultures; most of my style is influenced by punk but only because that is what's authentic to me. You also have to be careful not to fall into another mode of conformism. You could try breaking gender norms. It doesn't have to be obvious cross-dressing; I take my skinny jeans from the women's section, and no-one notices. Some guys wear subtle make-up, other guys get tattoos and piercings.
The main point is: invent as much as possible for yourself. I know it seems counterintuitive, but avoid seeking advice or influence from friends or the internet or magazines or TV or whatever. The more advice and opinions you seek, the more likely you are to regress to the mean and filter your own individual ideas. You don't want to follow someone else's map. The only advice I'm giving you is "I do x, and I like it because y".
When it comes to working out, only do what you genuinely enjoy doing for yourself. A lot of people will say they work out for themselves, but I don't believe most of them truly do. They work out because they want to look good, and as a society we tell them that working out means looking better. We don't do anything for ourselves unless it's consciously against the grain. Food also; I eat basically whatever food I want and it feels good.
Is it really possible to improve his appareance ? (male)
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These are all just my solutions. The most important part of the whole philosophy is doing it yourself.
On hair, you could go for an unnatural colour or bizarre style. At the moment I do both - my hair is blue and bleached blonde, and shaved into a floppy Mohawk. Hair is very conspicuous, so changing it is synonymous with making a bold statement which you might or might not want to do. If what you want is positive attention then good news: you'll probably get it. Every time I do something new with my hair I get attention for it and the vast majority of it is positive.
With clothes it's harder to break away from the norm. You could look at subcultures; most of my style is influenced by punk but only because that is what's authentic to me. You also have to be careful not to fall into another mode of conformism. You could try breaking gender norms. It doesn't have to be obvious cross-dressing; I take my skinny jeans from the women's section, and no-one notices. Some guys wear subtle make-up, other guys get tattoos and piercings.
The main point is: invent as much as possible for yourself. I know it seems counterintuitive, but avoid seeking advice or influence from friends or the internet or magazines or TV or whatever. The more advice and opinions you seek, the more likely you are to regress to the mean and filter your own individual ideas. You don't want to follow someone else's map. The only advice I'm giving you is "I do x, and I like it because y".
When it comes to working out, only do what you genuinely enjoy doing for yourself. A lot of people will say they work out for themselves, but I don't believe most of them truly do. They work out because they want to look good, and as a society we tell them that working out means looking better. We don't do anything for ourselves unless it's consciously against the grain. Food also; I eat basically whatever food I want and it feels good.