Is it racist to touch a black person's hair because you like how it feels?
I was told it was racist by a black person.
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I was told it was racist by a black person.
I wouldn't necessarily call it racist as long as you don't fixate on a black person's hair to the point that you don't realize that there's a person attached to that that hair. However, I do think it's very rude to just start reaching out to touch someone's hair without his or her permission, especially if you don't know that person very well.
When I was a little girl in 4th an 5th grade I had really long, thick, straight dark brown hair and other girls would often ask if they could play with it or braid it or whatever. I always said no of course. It actually annoyed me quite a bit, because my mom would always do my hair for me before school, and I was reasonably sure that whatever some other girl could do to my hair wouldn't look as good as what my mom already did that morning. I kinda felt like they just wanted to mess up my hair. My mom thought that they were jealous, either way I never wanted to say anything but no, and I'm happy for that.
First of all, don't touch anyone, ever, without permission. It's just not okay. And yes, it is racist to touch a black person's hair if you think you're entitled to, or like they're some kind of novelty. It's one thing to tell someone their hair is attractive, and totally fine to touch it if they invite you to, but it's important to understand that black people living in predominately white cultures get objectified and shamed for their appearances constantly. Beauty culture is very centered on whiteness and it rightly leaves a lot of non white people feeling sensitive and even defensive, so when someone disrespects their space and autonomy while objectifying a sensitive aspect of their appearance, even if it's intended as a compliment, it can feel like an attack.
I think the reason they'd consider it racist (and why it probably is) is that you (assumedly white) are treating a black person like an object. You're treating their hair like something you're entitled to just because you like the look of it. I'm sure I don't have to explain the extremely racist historical context of white people feeling ownership over black bodies.
Also if a black person tells you something is racist you should probably just take their word for it...