Is it predatory if a 35 year old woman is dating a 26 year old man?

Is it predatory if a 35 year old woman is dating a 26 year old man aka 9 years age gap?

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  • No. He's a grown ass man & (if he's not mentally challenged) can make his own decisions, same if the sexs were reversed.

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    • Thanks for the input :)

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  • Why wouldn’t it be ok? It’s 2 consenting adults.

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    • A lot of people are against that. There's this guy around 40 at work whos dating a 20 year old and everyone talks about how hes pedo.

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  • I don’t think that’s even that big an age gap, especially in your late twenties early thirties

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    • Thanks! :) I don't actually notice the gap myself but I wasn't sure if it was creepy or not. Even though I'm 35 most people think I'm a teenager because of my genes and they assume he's older than me so no one knows I'm older unless I tell people. He's also really mature so it works out but I just wondered if people viewed it as predatory because he's still in his 20s.

      Thanks for your input :)

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  • No.

    At least not only based on the numbers. It's entirely possible that the relationship is predatory, and for that to have nothing to do with the relative ages. It's not difficult to imagine a 26 year-old person to be in a predatory relationship with someone who's older.

    As a rule, guys tend to reach emotional maturity a lot later than they believe and somewhat later than women, but a 26 year-old man should be grownup enough to understand what he's doing.

    The nine year gap is a red herring. There's a huge difference between an eleven-year-old and a twenty-year-old. But once the younger person hits the mid-twenties mark, the significance of the age difference decline with every year, until there's not much difference at all between a sixty-one-year-old person and someone who's seventy.

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    • Thank you. I just wasn't sure if it's seen as bad or not because I don't notice the age gap when I'm with him

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  • Seems fine

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  • It isn't predatory so its fine. If the 26 year old was a 11-16 year old then that would be illegal.

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  • I not sure why you would come to this conclusions. You can kind of argue it if its 18 right outta hs but its 26. They already are a mature adult.

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  • Since age 26 is several years into adulthood (past the school age, usually with at least a few years of real world/work experience) and a person's brain is already developed by that age, I would say no. It is not the same as say, an 18 or 19-year-old who has next to zero life experience, is barely out of high school, and is much more naive and impressionable (and also usually more dependent) than your average 26-year-old.

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  • Generally I would say no, but the fact that you are even asking this makes me concerned that something sinister is going on.

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  • It entirely depends on the people, as always my advice is follow your gut and if it feels wrong end it.

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  • No.

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  • Hell no. Why is it so difficult for people to accept the fact that older women can be attracted to younger men? I am dating a woman old enough to be my mother and she doesn't care.

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    • Thanks for breaking the cycle :)

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      • You are so welcome. I think there is nothing wrong with dating an older woman. I remind my girlfriend I am not dating her for her age. I am dating her because she is a human being and deserves to be treated with the same respect as anyone else. I thank you for this post.

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  • Entirely depends on your intentions and if he is mature

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  • Depends when she started

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  • No, I don't see a problem

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  • I dunno, it depends.

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  • Nope, she is a cougar. Cougars enjoy sex much more than most women, and know how to get the best out of their young boyfriends. I salute her wisdom and sense of adventure.

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  • It's totally normal and fine. As long as it's not a huge age gap between an adult and a minor it's fine.

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  • There's nothing wrong with that.

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  • Absolutely not! They are both adults and this is none of our business.

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  • Nah, I’ve had girlfriends older than me by more than 9 years. Is fine.

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  • It's not predatory. I don't get this new age thing of calling adult relationships with an age gap "predatory". Bro, you might be too retarded to be capable of dating someone 5-15 years older than you, but most of the population it not.

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    • Because it's usually seen as wrong by people when the woman is older by more than 2-3 years so I didn't know if it was creepy or borderline predator-like

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      • Nah it's not at all. Don't worry about it. Some people might say it is, but frankly they're stupid.

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        • Thanks! You're right

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