Is it possible to not remember being molested?
Is it possible to not remember being sexually abused when you were a child but still kind of have a sense that it happened?
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I definitely think its worth looking into but im just terrified that if i do seek help i might somehow convince myself things happened when they didnt. The last thing i want is to blame someone who didnt do anything. Especially cause i have no clue who could have. But honestly, thanks for everyones help, its given me some perspective
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Yes. These are repressed memories. For years, my childhood was a big blank to me. Then out of nowhere, I started getting flashbacks. Those were very unpleasant and emotionally crippling. I don't advise trying to uncover your repressed memories. I went through a "phase", where I was so desperate to find more and was able to get myself to recover many vital memories. I don't think it benefited me to do this, I may have further traumatized myself. I didn't find peace. I only found more anger, hatred, and so on. It made healing very difficult for me.
Don't see someone for this, at least not now (hopefully, the situation will never arise where you need to). Don't force your repressed memories to resurface. Try not to think so deeply about it, or you'll become a prisoner to your fears and doubts. Good luck.
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I'm sorry. It wasn't my intention to come off as such. I guess my over protectiveness towards other abuse victims came through into my comment.
For the record, I did see a therapist. It was a mistake. Not only did I waste a lot of money but, this doctor didn't help me at all. She tried "pressuring me to take my case to court" and when I asked if she had any experience with this, she said "no." and that I would be her first client to do this. I was further traumatized and received a death threat. (I didn't take it to court)
You know healed me from my past abuse? Buddhism. Besides buying a few books on the subject, it was free. It did more for me than my doctor did and I am now "normal". There are no lingering effects of the abuse.
I'm not saying that she needs to practice Buddhism. I'm just explaining what worked for me. I would like to believe that not all abuse patients have bad treatment experiences with their doctors. I just don't want the OP to make my same mistakes. I only want what's best for the OP.
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Well there's no harm in going into to see a therapist that does hypnosis.
Just tell them you recall a memory and can't remember if it was a dream or real or something. And they will do a couple hypnosis sessions with you. There are various ways to do it and you have to relax a lot in order for it to happen which could take a couple times.But sometimes it's best not to know. Your brain is very powerful and sometimes it does things for your own good. It's up to you. But either way good luck.
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There could be a lot of harm seeing a therapist who does hypnosis: "memories" recovered under hypnosis can be totally false and I would've thought anyone aware of this issue would know about the many US therapists who created false memories in children and adults.
I do think OP should see a therapist, because obviously this is worrying her, but not hypnosis, it proves nothing
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The only thing I found was this:
http://www.spring.org.uk/2008/02/therapists-can-implant-false-beliefs.phpWhich was a study not an actual thing someone did to their clients. But I don't deny that there are some evil people in the world that would probably do such things. I would say research your therapist before you go and make sure they are licensed professionals.
Because to be honest anyone can learn hypnosis. You can even watch hypnosis videos on youtube.
BUT i'd also like to add that hypnosis is a very useful tool and has a good success rate.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
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I don't remember a thing! NOT everybody is traumatized by having sex at an early age. Maybe those of us who handled it well grew up to enjoy sex, so we don't have any disturbing faint memories telling us we were victimized, just ghost memories of things that we don't know if they were real or not but we get horny thinking about them.
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I didn't remember what had happened to me as a small child until I was into middle age, but I didn't remember it under hypnosis or in therapy.
I was actually relieved because it explained what had been stuffing up my life all that time without me knowing it and I did then go into therapy.
These responses to OP to ignore her feelings are dangerous and obviously she can't ignore them or they wouldn't be bothering her so much. How do you "ignore" strong feelings anyway? That's not healthy
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It's only been the last year or so when I started suspecting something had happened but couldn't for the life of me remember. I'm introverted, wildly insecure, don't like when people touch me, am very obsessed with sex, have been masturbating since the beginning of time, never remember how or from whom I learned about sex, I remember making my dolls have sex when I was a kid, I used to flash people my genitals all the time, at a young age I'd ask my friends very personal questions and I honestly don't remember majority of my childhood other than a few spaced out memories. I can't stop thinking about the possibility of it and the fact that I truly have no idea who would have done this to me. I feel very lost but can't really go to therapy because that would mean having to tell my parents...
Sorry this was really long lol. can't really tell anyone else
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Increased sexual curiosity at a young age could be linked to many other things as well. For instance if you witnessed sexual activity at all at a young age: like porn, or walking in on your parents or something. And some people just discover masturbation young, especially boys.
Also a lot of people who are introverted don't like being touched at all. So that may just be what's going on :/
Like I said before sometimes your brain does you a favor by repressing those memories. Do you think you would feel better or worse if you found out that it was true?
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