Is it ok to hook up with my daughters ex boyfriend?

My daughter dated this guy for about 6 months they were getting pretty serious up until my daughter went back for her junior year of college they split up she was pretty upset but as most do she got over it. As far as I know they do still talk from time to time but have not hung out since when she is home. Her ex bf is about 25 he’s an attractive man and I’m in my late 40s. I always felt some chemistry between us whenever my daughter would be in the shower or in the bathroom for a period of time I would catch him checking me out especially when she wasn’t around. He would compliment certain things about me and joke and say he wishes my daughter had that or did this. One of the last times he was over was actually by himself he was going to be visiting my daughter at school and came by to pick up some of her things. It was a Friday night so I had already had a couple of glasses of wine myself he said he was coming from a bar with some work friends. We both sat down had a glass of wine and got carried away talking without realizing it was almost 10 o’clock before he left I sat him down next to me to show him a gift idea for my daughter on my phone which was my biggest mistake single mom wine and staring an attractive 25 year old man in the eyes in your empty house is not something you should be doing if that man is your daughters boyfriend.

I felt an immediate attraction we both stared each other in the eyes until I saw him lick his lips and start leaning in towards me the only thing I could think to do was drop my almost empty glass of wine to cause a distraction. I told him I had to take care of it and we said goodbye I regretted not kissing him for so long but was glad I didn’t just completely ruin my relationship with my daughter. Since they broke up a couple months ago he still messages me from time to time sending wink emojis the other night around 2 am I got a Facebook notification saying he had liked a photo of mine when I opened it up it was an old picture of me doing yoga in leggings couldn’t see my face mostly just my butt and then the like was gone. My daughter has been staying at a friends house and at night inviting him over has been all I can think about. Is this normal is this anything any other mother has experienced .. I hope:/ lol

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  • No

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  • A dude was telling you what your daughter is lacking and you want to fuck him? That’s when I’d get the shotgun. Fuck that.

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  • You say you are mid 40's and single. My diagnosis is you are horney as all hell. Go to the adult store get some B.O.B.'s. (Battery operated notfriend.) Whatever you do - and i cannot stress this enough -DO NOT SLEEP WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS EX, They may get back together someday. And the conversation would come up somewhere, sometime and someplace. If you want to just really fuck up your relationship with your daughter, then go ahead and fuck him. But you might better think about how important it is to you having your daughter or having your daughter calling you every name in the book to let you know how bad that is to do fucked up shit like that. There are such things like moral codes and moral compass. Why not have your ex go date your daughters best friend. About the same thing. VERY NONO.IF my brother and his wife divorced, I sure as hell would not go ask her out. There are just some things in life that its like crack, JUST SAY NO!!!

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  • I mean I'm not exactly a family orientated person but unless that person was a hoebag who's been with half the town that kinda makes that person off limits excluding very critical criteria

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  • Lol trashbag

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  • What you are feeling is called " Lust" .

    What he is feeling is score to brag to his Buddys .

    Do not I repeat do not even talk to him block him on FB and you're phone .

    Be thankful you did not kiss him .
    Think of the guilt you would be feeling .
    Don't you know the rules of girl code ?
    "DO NOT communicate with, flirt with or date any man that your FRIEND has dated "

    I'm pretty sure if you did he would have told his friends and you're daughter will hear of this .
    How would you feel as a mother if she new you kissed him or even had feeling for him ?

    He is not worth losing you're daughter .

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  • That's a really shitty way to act. You can't keep girl-code for your own daughter? You're selfish, and your mind is messed up inside.

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  • If you want to bang a younger guy, go find a different younger guy to bang. You'll feel the same feelings without destroying your relationship with your daughter and you'll get it out of your system.

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  • I'm not saying it would be wrong. I'm not saying it would be right. I do understand how you feel and that such feeling are normal. I have 2 possible suggestions: 1) If you are sure that your daughter is over him. Then 1st ask her how she feels about him; if the answer verifies no apparent sex interest - then ask her if she would mind if you saw him casually once in a while. Of course, it does not have to stay casual.

    The 2nd possibility depends on how close you are with your daughter; and what you know about her attitudes towards sex and potential 3 sames...

    Any way; you need to sort this out on what's right for you without causing an issue with your daughter. I'd generally advise not to if it will cause an issue with your daughter.

    I wish you the best with this,

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  • I can't see the problem. You said he's her ex, it's a free country

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  • I've seen this porno before...

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  • Your relationship with your daughter can be tarnished irreparably depending on your choices here. Make sure you think long and hard before coming to any decision.

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  • Tag em and bag em, Ms.Milf

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  • If you're reasonably good looking there are plenty of other attractive young guys who would love a MILF in theirlife. Do not ruin your relationship with your daughter because you can't keep in your pants with this one.

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  • You might as well. I would imagine that everyone in town is hooking up with your daughter. I bet that it is a trait that runs in your family.

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  • You should never not hook up with anyone if you have the chance

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  • Hot; do it.

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  • LOL, Jesus Christ. Please tell me you're kidding.

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  • It sounds like it would be fun but you should make sure your daughter never finds out.

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  • They’ve broken up so go for it

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