Is it ok for him to be this way?

I dated a guy for years and he was horrible to me. He always talked to other girls behind my back, lied to me, and was just a horrible human being. Its been awhile since we broke up and it really seems like he has changed. He is a nicer person all around, shows that he truly does care and is concerned for my needs, and has been there for me for the past little while. He wants to try to fix things between us. I have no trust in him however, so the only thing i ask is that he cut out every other female in his life and show that he is about me. I know it's not healthy to even think this way but I don't feel like I'm the only one that matters if he can't do that. I just feel like I'm wasting my time at this point and i will never have his full commitment/attention. Am I just being crazy or am I right to think this?

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  • You have already moved on. Why go backwards to something you already know won't work?

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  • First of all, its really hard to be in a relationship with someone you don't trust. period. Second, it's not healthy to ask someone to cut out every female from his life that's absurd. '

    move on and find someone better

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  • He's old news, go look for a new one.

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  • Yeah, it doesn't sound like a good idea to try and get back together with him or anything like that. Even if he's suddenly changed, if you don't trust him then there's no real future for the two of you.

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  • I would just move on. If that was my bf talking to other girls
    it would immediately tell me that hes had enough of me and thats when I will release him and let him live his own life and ill live mine without questioning him too much. Maybe he wasn't happy about how the relationship was going or maybe because he thinks the relationship was boring so he made it more fun for himself. Theres always plenty of other good guys out there, fuck going back there.

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  • Just because he has changed, doesnt changed what he did in the past, he broke your trust, once that trust is gone and broken, its gone for good. you will forever doubt him for as long as you know him. Move on, dont go down that road again, you only end up destroying yourself.

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  • even if he changed, you both will get a hard time for you to trust him again; is it really worth it?
    if he didn't and he just seems like that because you two got distant, then you'll regret getting back to him
    i wouldn't do it hehe

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  • Maybe he has grown up, or maybe he has just perfected his manipulation skills.

    If you were with him for years, you should know him pretty well and you should trust your instincts, not what he says.

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    • Why is he automatically a manipulator now?

      You dont even know this guy. None of us do.

      What if OP was just jealous?

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  • not the first time i hear a story about a horrible untrustful boyfriend that after a while becomes a sweet heart. This story usualy end with he becoming a bastard again

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  • Run as fast as you can from this loser!

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  • Forget about his sorry ass.

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  • haveing a dry spell between bab boys happens to 80 percent of all women. get a vibrator . just remember you could have cock in 15 minutes if you wanted it, but it would not be bad boy cock.

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  • Once a cheater, always a cheat... He Hasn't changed , he has just gotten better at hiding it.

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  • Don't risk it. If he cared about you, he wouldn't have done the things he's done. You should look for someone else.

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  • yeah dont enable douchebags

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  • Yeah, I'd throw em away.

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