Is it obsession or is it a schoolgirl crush

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Ok, first of all, I am a college freshman and have been in college for about two months. Well, I developed this crush on a guy (upperclassman) at a pre-college gathering a few weeks before I entered college. I figured nothing more would come of it, as I was sure I would never see him again (its a big college). Well, I was wrong. I see him all over campus and what's worse is that I can't get him out of my head for a single second of the day (even in my sleep he invades my dreams). I barely know him, since we never exchanged anything more than pleasantries (hello, how are you, etc.). I dream of the moments each day that we may run into each other and sometimes when I see him, but he doesn't see me, I'll just stare at him. And I stalk his facebook.
I feel like such a voyeur, always watching. And its crazy that someone could invade my thoughts so much when I haven't had many one on one conversations with him.
Am I normal? Or is my schoolgirl crush nothing but an obsession I should get help about?

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  • Durrtyunk
    13 years ago | pl

    same thing happenend to me, I liked a girl and couldn't ever stop thinking bout her and I never her told her til 2 years after she left the state when I sent her and email and she said I was a really sweet guy but just forget me. And if he's really worth anything he'd take the chance on you, I know i'd take the chance on such a girl..but that's most likely because i'd give any girl who likes me a chance

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  • Justin_Case
    13 years ago | pl

    Will You Marry Me?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Talk to him. Ask if he wants to go for a coffee. Take a chance. See what happens. Otherwise you will just be stuck all pent up with a whole lot of interest and no action.

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    • cucui
      13 years ago | pl

      Word I rember i liked this girl in like 10th grade same damn scenario saw her onceliked her then thought nothing of it b/c i thought i wouldnt see her too often and/or she wouldn't like me and went on about my life
      a week later i start seeing her everywhere and shes a friend of my friend and it turned out she liked me too but lmao she thought the same shit as me
      we ended up going out :D
      take a chance he might like you too and just be shy or something "Hi" is an excellent icebreaker :P

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  • TheGuruOfTheSauce
    13 years ago | pl

    Well obsessing about somebody is never healthy so heres your choices.
    1. talk to him and see if he's a good guy or a douche
    2. If he passes that test bang him
    3. decided if you want to keep him around or not

    There a problem solved in less than a day tops

    -Dave

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Try not to be ashamed of always thinking about him. I have the same exact problem right now except I NEVER see the guy around campus. Even if I wanted to I couldn't hit on him because I don't know how to find him. I won't stalk his Facebook because if I do, it makes the crush seem more real. Maybe once a month or two we run into each other and exchange brief formalities.

    Anyway, I've somewhat learned to live with it. So long as you don't let it affect your life negatively you will be fine. Distracting yourself always helps and if you think about him all of the time, that doesn't make you a stalker. Being a stalker is more like getting to know him from afar unbeknownst to him. Stop Facebook stalking him!

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  • oogliebooglie
    13 years ago | pl

    You can take direct approach and ask him out. Or if your chicken you can do something like this e.g: If you know who his close friends are get a confident g.f of yours to chat up his mate, she'll say she's meeting up with a group of friends and say "oh you should bring your mates too and we can all get to know each other." or whatever sounds better to you. If it all goes to plan then cool you all get together with the guy you like his mate and your mate and whoever else And you can finally try and spend some time getting to know this guy. You won't feel pressured cause it's not a date. and if your plan fails eg, he doesn't end up coming, he doesn't talk to you all that much. It's no biggie, you can talk to him next time you see him and try again.

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  • POWWOW
    13 years ago | pl

    I am a stocker just like you. Obsessing is horrible yet pleasant. I would ask him if he wants to go hang out. some guys like the attention and find it flattering. I think obsessing is fine though, i dont think there is anything wrong with loving someone so much. But there is always a chance to get your heart broken... oww.

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  • gaelicwolf
    13 years ago | pl

    It's not an obsession...yet. If you don't find some better way to spend your time, this crush could turn unhealthy. Please, make some friends of both genders, and spend more time thinking about your studies and less time thinking about this guy.

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