Is it normalto be a 21 year old male rapper/ virgin etc.

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Ok so I always thought of myself as one of the least popular kids in school. I was hated, picked on, basically the easy target. Throughout High school I had maybe less than 5 friends and pretty much only 1 friend I hung out with most of the time.But one day people found out about my rapping techniques and people started diggin me for it and I became semi popular only for that reason and nothing else, it was as if they used me for my rapping abilities and apart from that most poeple didn't give a fuck about me.

I talked to a few girls but they always felt like acquaintances or were just being nice. The closest thing to a relationship I had gotten were not 1 but 2 online relationships from American girls about 2-3 years my junior and got ridiculed in school for it. Plus I never got invited/went to a single teenage party and haven't since. I'd spend 90% of my friday and saturday nights at home on the computer, watching R rated movies on tv doing you know what or playing video games etc. etc.

I never really started clubbing til I was 20 and that was just because I starting going with my brother and my friend. Now a year since then lately i've been usually just going by myself when I'm clubbing, meeting my friends there (All my new friends I've met through studying to be a PUA) or make new ones etc. I'm a great dancer and people love my moves but I can never really get that far with women at all in clubs for some reason.

Plus I feel due to my situation the only way I can get girls/laid (without paying for sex) is to either try and pick up at bars/clubs, or on the street/somewhere random during the day or Online (which seems to be going nowhere).

I'm also great songwriter and am good at rapping like i've said, plus I'm great at writing in general and doing stand up and I'm a pretty good DJ too. It makes me sound arrogant or something maybe and I can be a bit cocky but really its just honesty. And some people think i'm just a load of BS, because I "can't be good at all these things" so they say.

I did go to college but in Australia theres no frat houses and what not so nothing there could've helped. Plus now i'm taking up studies to be a lifecoach (yes at 21, because I know what i'm on about)

I do tend to feel out of place where I am currently, plus (i'm sure the right girl isn't here) in Sydney and do plan to move to America to persue my dreams.


So Becuase of what's happened to me so far I've never had a real girlfriend, had my first kiss or had sex. Plus because I know i'm such a great guy (as an ENTP,we usually are right) It kinda tears me up that most of the other guys get something but not me.

So am is my life in anyway normal?
Is it normal to be someone who is so awesome and still be a virgin who hasn't had a girlfriend? (most likely due to situation i think)

P.S: If you need proof of my awesomeness feel free to ask

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  • spotlessmind
    13 years ago | pl

    i don't really think he's being cocky, he's just telling it like it is. i mean, we're supposed to be honest on here, right?
    it's not like he's going around to every girl he meets going "you'd be lucky to have me, i'm awesome!"
    at least i hope not. lol

    it's ok to have a talent and know that you're good at it.

    i think you just have to find the right match!

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    • doubtfulldebie
      10 years ago | pl

      You're right he's not being cocky. He's just breaking down his situation, explaining that he's got something going for himself. But like ppl below mentioned.. D. you have to step away from the computer and get out there Aussie!

      I've been to Sydney, Bondi beach- tons of drunk Aussies and tourists. Why not start there, I know it may not be quality but it's a start. And from what I saw, Aussies in Sydney are gorgeous so I understand that it's tough competition. I'll be arrogant and say I'm hot but even I was doubting my fiya next to these tall model lookalikes

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  • anya07
    13 years ago | pl

    Go on that way you just didnt met the one whom you really want to sleep with.I wish I had a boyfriend like you

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  • supaflyafro
    13 years ago | pl

    u cant be arrogant. just be true to urself and to ppl. dont brag about urself either. also dont treat girls differently from guys u have to be urself around every1 and treat ppl the exact same. also i head dat as soon as a girl notices u looking at her breasts, even for a split second, its not gonna work out.may not be true at all but if i were just keep trying

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    I agree with blackrosevale I too am a girl and when u said that about bein awesome and stuff your points went way down. And it doesn't matter how you look it's what you bring to the table and bein cocky is NOT some thing I like in a guy or that any of my friends like but that doesn't mean hold your head down when u walk either just be calm and don't go in to somethin wantin sex bc if I was the girl u went up to there's no way Im doin a one night stand. Try actually talkin, listening to the person and a relationship and don't look at the girls boobs or mouth the entire time big turn off.!! Best quality in a guy for me is a down to earth person so.. Hope that helped some.... :) good luck

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  • imnotkidding
    13 years ago | pl

    I lost it at 13.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Being a virgin in your 20s isn't unheard of. I'm that l

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    I'm sure you're a great guy but maybe it would help if you stopped being so arrogant?

    Confidence about oneself is one thing but maybe that's why girls don't dig you. I'm a girl myself and I know that your "I'm awesome" attitude, turned me right off.

    Some girls may go for that but I think dropping that should help you.

    Just my opinion.

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    • Durrtyunk
      13 years ago | pl

      So if I don't say awesome how would I put the question? do I say if i'm such a guy? or If I can do this? thats the only way I felt I could phrase the question

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  • marley56
    13 years ago | pl

    Well, the important thing with girls is to flirt and be confident! No matter what ur feeling, be confident! And don't walk up to talk to someone with the mindset of getting them in bed. Girls smell that a mile away. Desperation to, which from the sound of it u are desperate. Don't be desperate or it will never happen for u. (sex I mean)

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    • Durrtyunk
      13 years ago | pl

      I never do, I'm always just being myself, but I could couple my arrogance with a bit of humour

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      • mjh1288
        13 years ago | pl

        maybe if you would get ur ass out from behind ur computer and talk to some girls, as many as u can whether ur interested or not cuz it will build confidence, u could get laid!!!! p.s.- ur im awesome thing is so fuckin fake dude u act like u are but u know ur not and thats ur problem!

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  • imnotkidding
    13 years ago | pl

    You're probably just ugly.

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  • americanhoney
    13 years ago | pl

    I want proof

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    • Durrtyunk
      13 years ago | pl

      She said she wants proof
      I said alright
      so i gave her a photograph and left on goodbye
      Should It have been me
      or someone else
      or should she have just found out for herself
      what he had done
      with another girl
      I hate being the one who rocked her world
      but its all for the best
      so now she knows
      she can just take her things and go
      away....

      are those lyrics enough proof of my abilities?

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      • bleach_baby
        13 years ago | pl

        Rofl. Yes they are proof your abilities are non-existant. maybe girls dont like you because you are a deluded arrogant ass? No, in all seriousness, if yu dont have success with women, you are probably hitting on women out of your league. Set yourself a more realistic standard and youll be finee.

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