I disagree that teenagers are the problem. In fact, quite the opposite. Bullies are bullies regardless of their age. And they get more sophisticated. People also tend to deal with them better with age. I've had (what I assume) were 15 year olds attempting to bully me here. I completely disarmed them in very little time and then had a joke about it with them, because I have the tools to do that. If it were the other way around and I was attacking a 15 year old with all the experience I've gathered, I think that's entirely different.
I couldn't count the number of attempted 'attacks' I've had here from hatemail to some very nasty, bitter or manipulative people, but I will tell you that the three that stick in my mind all originated from people over 20. Worse, I think they all thought they were doing the "right" thing. From protecting their relationships (which were under no threat anyway) to destroying someone who has too much influence for the wellbeing of IIN. In each case there was a personal motive they chose to ignore. I am much too nice to ever publicly reveal their identity, to say what they did, or to make sure they don't do it to someone else, but hey, maybe one day I'll get drunk enough and a few things will slip out. Watch this space, folks.
Not that I actually need to say, to be honest. There are people vastly more intuitive than me on IIN. If I see what's really going on (and I am fairly dense sometimes), they must do too. In short, yes, some teenagers pull stuff but I think a bigger problem with this site is people older than teenagers bullying people because they're an easy mark. It's something I feel extremely strongly about.
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I disagree that teenagers are the problem. In fact, quite the opposite. Bullies are bullies regardless of their age. And they get more sophisticated. People also tend to deal with them better with age. I've had (what I assume) were 15 year olds attempting to bully me here. I completely disarmed them in very little time and then had a joke about it with them, because I have the tools to do that. If it were the other way around and I was attacking a 15 year old with all the experience I've gathered, I think that's entirely different.
I couldn't count the number of attempted 'attacks' I've had here from hatemail to some very nasty, bitter or manipulative people, but I will tell you that the three that stick in my mind all originated from people over 20. Worse, I think they all thought they were doing the "right" thing. From protecting their relationships (which were under no threat anyway) to destroying someone who has too much influence for the wellbeing of IIN. In each case there was a personal motive they chose to ignore. I am much too nice to ever publicly reveal their identity, to say what they did, or to make sure they don't do it to someone else, but hey, maybe one day I'll get drunk enough and a few things will slip out. Watch this space, folks.
Not that I actually need to say, to be honest. There are people vastly more intuitive than me on IIN. If I see what's really going on (and I am fairly dense sometimes), they must do too. In short, yes, some teenagers pull stuff but I think a bigger problem with this site is people older than teenagers bullying people because they're an easy mark. It's something I feel extremely strongly about.
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Okay, I suppose my theory has holes.