Is it normal when your boyfriend doesn't show any affection?

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I love my boyfriend but I don't know what to do anymore? He never shows me any types of affection (hugs,kisses,touches) nothing. He never says I love you unless I say it first. I have noticed that he is constantly watching porn, on-line, etc. or looking at nasty pics when I am sleeping or at work. He will never initiate intimate moments with me. Is this normal? He has only touched me down there twice for my pleasure, once because I asked. Is it possible that he is gay, or just using me to get where he wants to go? I am so confused, I don't know what to do. He gets defensive and hostile when I bring up him watching and looking at this stuff behind my back.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I don't get guys like that. I show
    my girlfriend every single day how much I love her and do my best to make her feel like she is the most important person on earth. I say your boyfriend doesn't deserve you if he can't even show you any affection or love. Just my opinion though. I'm sure lots of guys would keep you happier than him.

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  • 343Boy
    13 years ago

    Well, if the porn he's watching is gay porn, then he might be gay, if it's not, he probably isn't.

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  • normalschmormal
    13 years ago

    You need to break up with him. He may be gay, he may just not love you but he is definitely not reciprocating your feelings in the way that you need and deserve. so dont waste any more time or risk letting his behaviour damage your self esteem in the long term. dump him and find someone better.

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  • eyehategod
    13 years ago

    Some people just aren't the "touchy feely, lovey dovey" type. There's nothing wrong with that, but if you don't want a relationship like that, then it's probably time to move on. You two just don't seem to "click," which is very normal.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    you should prolly break up with him. sorry but it doesn't sound like he loves you. you should find someone that will love you.

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  • cupcake_wants
    9 years ago

    your boyfriend is an ASSHOLE. u need to withhold sex and tie him down and rape his ass with your dildo

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  • xstarbugyx
    12 years ago

    Blah

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  • Eddie_21
    13 years ago

    It doesn't matter if he is gay or not, because a real man would never treat a woman like that in the first place. Dump this sorry fool and find man who treats you with the respect that you deserve.

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    • lola27
      13 years ago

      Agreed. He's probably not that into you, and may be into his own pleasure. Sounds like a selfish person. Maybe he has problems of his own.

      Yeah, some people aren't lovey-dovey types but they at least show you in other ways that they love you when they actually do. Rather than running away to porn all the time.

      So dump him!

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  • lululu
    13 years ago

    i behave the same way with my bf. i love him so much but it's hard for me to show him any affection maybe cuz i'm not used to be affected.my mum never hugs me, neither kisses me. but i know that she loves me the same. try to talk to him about this and ask him why he behaves thi way...communication is the solution.if he's not available to talk with you , then you break up

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  • Eoso
    13 years ago

    ^balls.

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  • jazzyy_mayy
    13 years ago

    Yep

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    ^ word.

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  • marley56
    13 years ago

    Amen momonater.

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  • Ribbit.
    13 years ago

    Agree^^ completely^

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  • blackazday
    13 years ago

    I recently just got out of a relationship like that. I still don't know why he was with me, I'm not even sure if he liked me. Sure, he said he did if I said it first, but he was the same as your guy. I only gave him a few months though and then I gave up on him and ended it. I am with a fantastic guy now who i met only a few days after ending it with the other guy and I am so happy. I've not looked back once.

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