Many guys are put down in childhood for expressing their feelings. Some with force like spankings for crying or physically pushed away when wanting comfort, others with yelling/screaming/harsh words from parents or relatives. I know this may sound an unlikely extreme but I've seen all these instances personally with cousins and school friends growing up. Because of that, there is a break of trust and safety and so they may literally get 'shaken up' or break out into a cold sweat because expression of deep feelings have had such negative repercussions in the past. The first 5-7 years of a child's life is said to be the most concrete of their foundation and what they learn will stay with them all through their lives. I'm not saying this is exactly what happened to your man but I think it may be an idea. Girls aren't usually treated so harshly for crying or running to comfort or having hurt feelings, that being said, I have the same problem with trust in my emotions. Even though I'm a girl and didn't get much negativity for crying or being sensitive, I hate talking about how I feel. It's about trust and how someone will react. Sorry this is so long but I hoped some of it helped!!
IIN when my boyfriend opens up to me, he feels cold and scared?
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Many guys are put down in childhood for expressing their feelings. Some with force like spankings for crying or physically pushed away when wanting comfort, others with yelling/screaming/harsh words from parents or relatives. I know this may sound an unlikely extreme but I've seen all these instances personally with cousins and school friends growing up. Because of that, there is a break of trust and safety and so they may literally get 'shaken up' or break out into a cold sweat because expression of deep feelings have had such negative repercussions in the past. The first 5-7 years of a child's life is said to be the most concrete of their foundation and what they learn will stay with them all through their lives. I'm not saying this is exactly what happened to your man but I think it may be an idea. Girls aren't usually treated so harshly for crying or running to comfort or having hurt feelings, that being said, I have the same problem with trust in my emotions. Even though I'm a girl and didn't get much negativity for crying or being sensitive, I hate talking about how I feel. It's about trust and how someone will react. Sorry this is so long but I hoped some of it helped!!