Is it normal when i lost weight all my chubby friends disowned me

Most of my friends are overweight. I recently started loosing a lot of weight and now none of them want anything to do with me. I am very depressed by this because these friends r not just aquantances but life-long friends. It's not because I am flaunting the fact that I lost weight either because I am still self consious about my looks. Why r they being so mean? If it were the other way around I'd b happy for them. They r blessed in ways that I am not and I think it's great for them. Why can't they just b happy for me?

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  • They're probably Jealous. Or maybe they are putting up a wall because they think you'll start ditching them. It'll probably blow Over once they get used to your weight loss. Congradulations on the weight loss btw :D

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  • I will be your friend.
    I lost and gained on and off for over 5 years. when I lost my friends stay my friends and they say You look great!
    then when I gain weight they tell me i got fat
    and I tell them your obese stfup
    we bust out laughing hysterically like insane people.
    I love my friends because they are always honest to me and up front.
    How ever these current real friends I have, I made friends with them after my daughter was born. Because the friends I had form highschool through up until i got knocked up.......by my husband....seriously my husband...not some random guy.....we got married and had a great thing going on.....all my friend dropped me. Some girls even went out of their way and hit on my husband while I was in the last 3 months of my pregnancy. anyways long story short....I lost almost all my friends. I had a hard time dealing with it all, but i made new friends, and I love my new family now. They are always there for me, in time of need, or even to hang out. I never ask them to buy me things but they always give and give and never ask for anything in return. I am really lucky and blessed to have the friends I have now for 4 years.

    It sounds like you need new friends too just like what happened to me.
    I am a female, and i also do not comprehend why other females are jealous, envious and so mean!
    SO MEAN!

    for nothing!

    well
    I wish you luck and congrats on losing the weight:) even though we can't be friends in real life, I want you to know that I would support you and be your friend regardless.

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  • They're jealous that you can now make sex.

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  • Tell your jealous friends to grow the fuck up and ping them right in their throats for being unsupportive, insecure, snooty, fucktards.

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  • Sounds like they are jealous. Maybe they weren't really your friends to begin with. Best of luck to you... and congrats on losing weight! :)

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  • Same way loosers hate their friends becoming wealthy.

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  • No not normal! Your friend should want you to be healthy! Forget them you deserve better!

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  • sounds like jealousy to me. i know someone like that. she looks good, but her friends are fat, and they are always suggesting that she get tattooed or another piercing, or something like that, I think they want her to look uglier so they feel better.

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  • You should cobfront them about this!
    I see this is the only way towards a true answer instead of guessing and worrying about what it "could" be.
    Just be straight forward with them!
    Haha funny to think it sounds like a chubby club like if your not chubby your not accepted group lmao

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  • I had the same thing happen to me. I'm very skinny and my best friend was over weight and we went to the mall one day to buy clothes and after that she stopped hanging out with my for awhile, I think it's just an insecurity thing.

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  • sadly i do think its normal. i'm sorry for you and i'm not condoning what they are doing, but i have had so many lousy friends i am not surprised by it when someone else is going through it. i don't mean that its really NORMAL as in cool or ok. you're friends are jerks and clearly jealous of you and to insecure to be around you. why can't they be happy for you? becuase they're so selfish and greedy and that they can't even reinforce you with approval and respect. you need to get new friends.

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  • If they stopped talking to you only because you lost weight then they are definitely jealous of you and that's not cool, you shouldn't even bother with them, if they were your true friends they would be happy for you and not exclude you only because you lost the weight, I say find some new friends, start fresh with your new looks and new friends! Congrats!

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  • Oh my yes it's normal. I lost 70 pounds recently and it happened to me. Other people thought I was physically sick to have lost the weight. They kept telling to eat more. Don't fall for it. Congratulations to you!! Hold your head up!!

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  • I don't know what is up with them. If anything I would be asking for tips and hanging out with you. Apperenty they weren't real friends.

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