Is it normal: were you ever abused?

It's more common than you think unfortunately. Children are abused in many ways some more than others, but it happens a lot. And its a shame.

Reading all these stories remind me to be thankfull i never had to deal with this...

@Rosey, I was thinking the exact same thing!

It's not normal, however where I come from what you call physical abuse ( not rape obviously ) is called discipline. In other countries you get time out or grounded or what not. As for me I was beatened with almost anything they can get a hold of. This actually happened until I was 18. Then finally I got sick of it and started fighting back. Yes, it's wrong but my mom and I are even closer now because after that day she knew I was starting to grow up. The fight was pretty ugly, hair pulling, kicking, punching but I was having none of it no more. I moved out for a couple of months, without speaking to her. Then on her bday I called her to greet her and she asked me to come home. I assumed when she asked it meant she would finally start to treat me as a young adult and not a child. And now we've finally established a healthy and understanding mother/daughter relationship for about 4 years now.

There's going to be a day when you finally defend yourself from all that discipline because you're going to grow up sooner or later and most disciplinary parents are oblivious to that until something occurs for them to finally open their eyes and not see you as a child no more.

its is not good , i think ur father can abuse u sexly so be carefull about it

Aparantly I have been mentally and physicaly abused and to be honest im glad I was because iits made me think differently. It all happened when I was a child firstly by my father and then by my little brothers father who later we found out to be a psychotic drug dealer who tried to kill us when we left. Its made me who I am and im sure your abuse has made you into who you are. I dont see it as a bad thing.

Your father should should have his head examined. By examined I mean repeatedly hit against a wall.

@rosey and doodlelover
my thoughts exactly

Yess its normal, its ok, and its not ur fault!! Growing up my father beat my mom then beat me!! A close family friend molested me!! My "bestfriends" older brother molested me!! My grandfather molested me!! I was 16 got raped, then 17 raped again!! It hurts and i know its painful, but you have to accept what happen, FORGIVE BUT NEVER FORGET!! move on, trust me hunn, till this day it still kills me what ive went through and what has happened to me, but if you dont move on, youll drive urself crazy and ull never move on!! Better to move forward sooner than later

My dad hit me when i was bad or whatever just as an old fashion parent would until i hit him back and fractured his jaw when i was about 13 or 14. That taught him

I used to get beat up, told I was worthless, called a whore (when I was like 8 years old and not sexually active at all), and even spat on. Usually, I did nothing to provoke such extreme punishment.

I tried to tell an adult from a group once in the 1st grade, but they didn't believe me because I'm from a white upper-middle class background. Come to think of it, that adult was pretty dumb. There was a puppet show involved. Yup.

I went through a similar expereince with my mother. All I can say is that it is your abusers shame not yours, thousends of people go through these kinds of experiences but it's who you are and who you become that matters and you should never feel ashamed of what was done to you because it was not your fault.
Altough I still bear the mental scars, I feel that it has made me a stronger more determined person. I wish you the best of luck for your future.

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