You know...this response did make me reflect on my opinion quite a bit.
I did want to draw attention to how out of control the derailing commentary could hurt the site as well as make people feel excluded, but you are certainly among those who I believe would never mean for that to happen.
Ahh, you shouldn't change your mind just because I'm sometimes the guilty party. :)
I also see whole posts filled with private jokes that I wasn't party to and don't understand. On occasion, I see a very valid question that doesn't get a single valid answer despite having a hundred responses. I know it's nice to be familiar with people but it does make me wonder about my own behaviour and whether people are thinking it about me too.
I really do try not to exclude people. There are a couple of dozen people on the site that I know I'd get along with and wish I knew better but, weirdly, I'm actually quite shy and I tend to wait for people to come towards me, rather than approach them myself. Virtually everyone I know on this site had to make the first move in getting to know me. I know it doesn't come across that way and I think I can appear a bit cliquey because of it.
Where we get the posts that get filled with non-relevant answers, I do try to give a real answer. I initially answered you with an apology, though, because that's how I genuinely feel. I know I'm not the only problem on the site, and I hope others see this and show some consideration. I think you've made a great point.
Is it normal turned into a circle jerk?
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You know...this response did make me reflect on my opinion quite a bit.
I did want to draw attention to how out of control the derailing commentary could hurt the site as well as make people feel excluded, but you are certainly among those who I believe would never mean for that to happen.
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Ahh, you shouldn't change your mind just because I'm sometimes the guilty party. :)
I also see whole posts filled with private jokes that I wasn't party to and don't understand. On occasion, I see a very valid question that doesn't get a single valid answer despite having a hundred responses. I know it's nice to be familiar with people but it does make me wonder about my own behaviour and whether people are thinking it about me too.
I really do try not to exclude people. There are a couple of dozen people on the site that I know I'd get along with and wish I knew better but, weirdly, I'm actually quite shy and I tend to wait for people to come towards me, rather than approach them myself. Virtually everyone I know on this site had to make the first move in getting to know me. I know it doesn't come across that way and I think I can appear a bit cliquey because of it.
Where we get the posts that get filled with non-relevant answers, I do try to give a real answer. I initially answered you with an apology, though, because that's how I genuinely feel. I know I'm not the only problem on the site, and I hope others see this and show some consideration. I think you've made a great point.