When I was unruly you know what my parents did? They sat down in the living room and TALKED to me. They asked me why I was acting out (it was to get their attention, because I was kind of neglected in contrast to my sister) and then we talked it over. I was 14 or 15 at the time and extremely difficult to handle, but you know what? Because my parents treated me like an adult I was willing to listen to what they had to say. I had a temper, I was moody, I was a complete bitch, but as soon as they conveyed their feelings to me and treated me like an adult I realized that my behavior was not suitable.
Grounding your daughter and shutting her away is only going to make her resent you more. More often than not unruly children are a direct product of poor parenting. My parents always catered to my sister, because she was highly intelligent and "gifted", so I rarely got any of their attention. They would buy me things and expect it to make up for years of lost parenting. I didn't like that. So, I acted out. If this is how you always dealt with your daughter, then I am sorry but it is completely your fault that she is who she is now.
It is NOT normal and borderline child abuse what you're doing to her. These aren't the dark ages. We have language for a reason: to communicate with one another. Have you even tried asking her how she feels and why she is the way she is? Or did you just shut her into her room and strip her of her social life? Come on, love and nurture her before it's too late. You don't want her to be 35 in psychiatric ward, because her parents mentally abused her as a teenager.
iin trying to help daughter with temper so have extreme grounded her
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When I was unruly you know what my parents did? They sat down in the living room and TALKED to me. They asked me why I was acting out (it was to get their attention, because I was kind of neglected in contrast to my sister) and then we talked it over. I was 14 or 15 at the time and extremely difficult to handle, but you know what? Because my parents treated me like an adult I was willing to listen to what they had to say. I had a temper, I was moody, I was a complete bitch, but as soon as they conveyed their feelings to me and treated me like an adult I realized that my behavior was not suitable.
Grounding your daughter and shutting her away is only going to make her resent you more. More often than not unruly children are a direct product of poor parenting. My parents always catered to my sister, because she was highly intelligent and "gifted", so I rarely got any of their attention. They would buy me things and expect it to make up for years of lost parenting. I didn't like that. So, I acted out. If this is how you always dealt with your daughter, then I am sorry but it is completely your fault that she is who she is now.
It is NOT normal and borderline child abuse what you're doing to her. These aren't the dark ages. We have language for a reason: to communicate with one another. Have you even tried asking her how she feels and why she is the way she is? Or did you just shut her into her room and strip her of her social life? Come on, love and nurture her before it's too late. You don't want her to be 35 in psychiatric ward, because her parents mentally abused her as a teenager.