So you're spending as little time as possible with your kids, and telling yourself this is for their benefit in the distant future.
While surveys show that people with a degree earn more on average, there's more to life than making money. Lots of people who are successful in financial terms and have "good" jobs are actually pretty miserable. Sometimes that's due to deep-seated low self-esteem because they grew up feeling that their parents didn't really like them, had impossibly high expectations of what they'd achieve, or pressured them into following a course in life that didn't really suit them.
When you're a parent, it's impossible to be certain you're making the right decisions, but it's almost guaranteed that your kids will be certain you made the wrong choices.
People think their own parents made the wrong choices until they become parents themselves and find out there is this thing called "opportunity cost".
Now if the OP had said, "I work only as much as necessary so I can spend time with my kids, but I have no money for their college" then would THAT have been wrong?
One thing we cannot do as adults is sit around blaming our parents if our lives are not perfect. If you heard someone blaming their parents, wouldn't you say, "grow the f*** up and be a man/woman.
First, you're assuming that they are a single parent. If the other parent is spending time with the kids, the probability that they're growing up lonely and resentful is a lot lower.
Second, you're assuming that they are pressuring their children with high expectations just because they have a college fund ready. This may or may not be true, but it can't be assumed based on the OP.
Third, you're assuming that the kids are objective. They may be certain of their opinions of the parents' choices, but that doesn't make them correct. If one of the kids really does want to be a doctor, then he's going to see things much differently than the kid who wants to be a musician.
Is it normal to work 8-5 seven days a week for this reason?
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So you're spending as little time as possible with your kids, and telling yourself this is for their benefit in the distant future.
While surveys show that people with a degree earn more on average, there's more to life than making money. Lots of people who are successful in financial terms and have "good" jobs are actually pretty miserable. Sometimes that's due to deep-seated low self-esteem because they grew up feeling that their parents didn't really like them, had impossibly high expectations of what they'd achieve, or pressured them into following a course in life that didn't really suit them.
When you're a parent, it's impossible to be certain you're making the right decisions, but it's almost guaranteed that your kids will be certain you made the wrong choices.
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People think their own parents made the wrong choices until they become parents themselves and find out there is this thing called "opportunity cost".
Now if the OP had said, "I work only as much as necessary so I can spend time with my kids, but I have no money for their college" then would THAT have been wrong?
One thing we cannot do as adults is sit around blaming our parents if our lives are not perfect. If you heard someone blaming their parents, wouldn't you say, "grow the f*** up and be a man/woman.
This is making some assumptions.
First, you're assuming that they are a single parent. If the other parent is spending time with the kids, the probability that they're growing up lonely and resentful is a lot lower.
Second, you're assuming that they are pressuring their children with high expectations just because they have a college fund ready. This may or may not be true, but it can't be assumed based on the OP.
Third, you're assuming that the kids are objective. They may be certain of their opinions of the parents' choices, but that doesn't make them correct. If one of the kids really does want to be a doctor, then he's going to see things much differently than the kid who wants to be a musician.
Ok my family gonna liv3 in a soup kitchen tmrw.
Thx for the advice man.