Is it normal to withhold your virginity?

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I don't consider myself as a religious person, but I do wave my hat to women who wait for sex until marriage.

I've been thinking about doing the same. Lately I've watched Jason Everts youtube videos where he talks about women cherishing our bodies, the beauty of saving yourselves, and the small domino affect of giving in to temptation. It all sounds wonderful, but I'm a little hesitant. The future is never written in stone.

So far my friends and I have started a pack-no sex during high school until we graduate. Well that check point is done. Now I want to give my virginity and "one less worry/responsibility" another check point like get through freshman year of college without giving it up and sounding like a cliche. I passed the legal check point- "No sex until you're of legal age- 18?".

I'm starting to run out of check points...I don't want to seem like an extremely traditional and old fashion girl, but the security is comforting. I don't have to deal with any STDs or STIs, i'll know a player v.s. a well rounded boyfriend, i won't have any pregnancy scares, and I'd set a good example for my kids ( in the FAR away future).

I mean am I going to shun and burn any other girl that gives it up to her beloved boyfriend? Nope. It's her decision and if she feels he deserved it by all means who am I to judge? Love is Blind in some cases, other times it could lead you to a nice memory.

I'm just one of those girls who feels what she has shouldn't be thrown over her shoulder to the wolves like a piece of meat. If and when I give my boyfriend, fiance, husband, myself I don't want any regrets.

So am I coco for Coco Puffs? Are my attempts futile?

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    Don't have time to comment now (finals) but I just want to say you have a GREAT head on your shoulders. And this is coming from a non-religious straight guy in college who has married a girl like you. Wait for your dream guy, it will be sooooo much better and special that way. Guys love promiscuous women only so they can fuck them. Guys are NOT attracted to marrying nor respect such women.

    I will comment again later after finals.

    I respect girls like you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I love this post. I think that more girls should be like you, especially in high school.

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    • Juniper
      12 years ago

      22 and still haven't tried it.

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  • Problemchild21
    12 years ago

    Its completely normal for you to want to cherish your body. Good for you and I bet you if you told your Dad that he'd buy you a car haha I would if my daughter did.

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  • youdontknowmee1111
    12 years ago

    I'm 18 and just recently lost my virginity. In my opinion, a person should lose it when they're ready; whether that's after they get married or when they're cuddled up to their other half one night. It's all up to you and what you think and feel. Where I'm from, people who waited til after high school to have sex were considered prude but the people who did have sex during high school were whores. In today's society, you can't win. No matter what you do, you will be wrong. Don't worry about what other's might say or how other's feel. Follow YOUR heart and YOUR mind. If you want to wait til marriage, then I amend you for that. If you want to go lose it to someone you barely no, go for it. It's your life, you're choices.

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  • OliveOil
    12 years ago

    I live in the city and I'm planning on keeping my virginity until I'm at least 30 years old. It's mostly because my friend made a bet of $100 dollars that I would lose it before I turned 30. I am NOT losing a hundred dollars.

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    next checkpoint: get married and THEN lose your virginity.

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  • Juniper
    12 years ago

    I wish you were my friend.

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    • ENC
      12 years ago

      Lol thanks I think?

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  • Lynxikat
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal. It's your personal choice if you choose to not have sex.

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  • Ono
    12 years ago

    It should be a persons choice if they sex, noone else's. I'm not sure it's a worthwhile reason to not have sex so you don't lose a lousy hundred bucks though. Is half a days pay really worth if that's your only reason??

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  • Darkoil
    12 years ago

    A person's virginity means absolutely nothing, infact unless your with someone really experienced it probably won't be that good. See there are 2 problems with waiting till your married to have sex, 1 - up until that point you are denying yourself the very best experience in the world. 2 - how bad would it be if you waited till your married and it turns out your husband has no idea how to use his cock. I have been with a married woman before who was sexually frustrated because her husband couldn't keep up his end of the bargain in the bedroom, i was only to happy to oblige and we fucked like absolute animals, she actually cried after because she said her husband had never made her feel like that before. They're both to blame though if you think about it, he should be more of a fucking man and she should of thought twice before marrying the limp dick pussy.

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    • ENC
      12 years ago

      I'm not necessarily going to wait until marriage, it's an option, but I have to be honest with myself-things happen.The check points are building blocks/guides to a possible goal in life.However I am 'trying' to wait until I find someone I'm truly comfortable with.

      For example, if I have a fiance who I am 100% sure will not abandon me on the Wedding Day, I'll 125% give in a few days after I say, "Yes".

      Also I'm not saying, I'm only allowed to peck my boyfriends on the cheek and hug them while we're dating. God no, wheres the fun in that? I'm fine with getting to feel and stimulate one another, but sex is just...so final. If you have no chemistry with just small foreplay, then away he goes. You can't ever get it back. And personally, I want to have a smile on my face for the rest of my life after my first time.

      At least if I hold out I can say, "Danny may not have been my husband, but I wouldn't have changed a thing!"

      Besides if I wait and my husband isn't that great in the bed. Well then it's my turn/sacrifice to teach him just how to work it. With practice makes perfect, so why not practice with the perfect guy for me ;)

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    • sunny_wantsome
      12 years ago

      Stop spoiling people like this.. only limited left

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  • Dot123
    12 years ago

    Yeah, pretty common with most people, they wanna know the person, grow a relationship. But I like to fuck on the first date, so if you are interested hit me up and I can get ride of your problem.

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  • Lucyg123
    12 years ago

    My role model

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  • Tay'leana
    12 years ago

    Just because you wait until marriage doesn't, mean its gunna be special. & it doesn't mean you wont regret it. To me, your virginity is meaningless. But thats just my opinion..

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  • Pisslan616
    12 years ago

    I'm 19 and still a virgin but that wasn't because I chose to save myself but only because I haven't had a girlfriend yet. If I had had a willing girlfriend when I was 16 then I would probably have lost it then.

    I think people should lose it when they want to and not feel obligated to wait until marriage or whatever. Don't get me wrong if a person really wants to save themselves for their husband/wife then that is fine too.

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    The midwest must really be behind...for a modern city, not normal.

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