If someone is abusive, divorce is best for the kid.
My dad is a drunkard ex con who was physically and emotionally abusive. He hit my mother. She eventually left, I was two and my brother was three months.
I don't wish my father dead. I'm just grateful he wasn't and isn't a big part of my life.
Mum did worry that he'd kill us when he had visitation right but he's too selfish...he values his own life and freedom more. His top priority was not having to pay child support.
I like to hope that the people in charge of the legal side of custody disputes would find in favour of the non abusive parent. I think this is largely the case, though I know it isn't always. I also am aware that it is often difficult for the abused partner to leave the abuser.
I still don't see how your mother is abusive, I'm sorry. I'm not saying she's not - I haven't met her or you - but your example really wasn't abusive, just fucking bizarre.
I'm glad your dad didn't get custody rights. It's a good thing one of his vices worked in your favour.
I'd like to provide you with a lot more detail but then you would have to know Chinese society works in order to understand what else she did.
But here's another example, she refused to let me do anything washing clothes, cooking and she'd constantly say what I was doing was wrong. I was essentially crippled by her; plus she lies to me about a lot of things.
Is it normal to wish your mother is dead
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Honestly, how would you feel if you were my dad.
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I'd simply get a divorce. I probably would have long ago if she does stuff like that a lot.
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But what if you had a kid with her? Would you still get a divorce, then? What about your kid?
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If someone is abusive, divorce is best for the kid.
My dad is a drunkard ex con who was physically and emotionally abusive. He hit my mother. She eventually left, I was two and my brother was three months.
I don't wish my father dead. I'm just grateful he wasn't and isn't a big part of my life.
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I feel for you. It's horrible to have a parent that has an alcoholic problme.
But what if the abusive parent would try every which way to get parental rights of the kid? Wouldn't you stay for the kid? W
What if your dad decided he wanted to keep and starts to beat you? Wouldn't your mom want to stay to protect you guys?
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Mum did worry that he'd kill us when he had visitation right but he's too selfish...he values his own life and freedom more. His top priority was not having to pay child support.
I like to hope that the people in charge of the legal side of custody disputes would find in favour of the non abusive parent. I think this is largely the case, though I know it isn't always. I also am aware that it is often difficult for the abused partner to leave the abuser.
I still don't see how your mother is abusive, I'm sorry. I'm not saying she's not - I haven't met her or you - but your example really wasn't abusive, just fucking bizarre.
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I'm glad your dad didn't get custody rights. It's a good thing one of his vices worked in your favour.
I'd like to provide you with a lot more detail but then you would have to know Chinese society works in order to understand what else she did.
But here's another example, she refused to let me do anything washing clothes, cooking and she'd constantly say what I was doing was wrong. I was essentially crippled by her; plus she lies to me about a lot of things.
And many times it's either her way or no way.
I will never understand why some people think divorce is bad for the kid.
I was fortunate to have good parents. They weren't abusive and are both good people.
At the same time, they did not get along with each other. They eventually got divorced and honestly it was somewhat of a relief.