That's not abusive. That's her being just stupid.
I would consider abusive to be molesting your kids, or getting them hooked on meth, or burning them on the stove or in boiling water, etc. Those things are abusive. I could give hundreds more examples of horror stories I have personally heard from people about child abuse and calling something like cheating on tests as abusive is almost an insult to people who have gone though these sort of things.
Fact remains, what you stated is not infact abuse...perhaps there's an element that you missed, but as you stated it there, it's just something stupid, not abusive.
Also, if you're 13, you shouldn't be here. Thought it would certainly explain why you hate a parent. We all hate parents at that age.
If someone is abusive, divorce is best for the kid.
My dad is a drunkard ex con who was physically and emotionally abusive. He hit my mother. She eventually left, I was two and my brother was three months.
I don't wish my father dead. I'm just grateful he wasn't and isn't a big part of my life.
Mum did worry that he'd kill us when he had visitation right but he's too selfish...he values his own life and freedom more. His top priority was not having to pay child support.
I like to hope that the people in charge of the legal side of custody disputes would find in favour of the non abusive parent. I think this is largely the case, though I know it isn't always. I also am aware that it is often difficult for the abused partner to leave the abuser.
I still don't see how your mother is abusive, I'm sorry. I'm not saying she's not - I haven't met her or you - but your example really wasn't abusive, just fucking bizarre.
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That's not abusive. That's her being just stupid.
I would consider abusive to be molesting your kids, or getting them hooked on meth, or burning them on the stove or in boiling water, etc. Those things are abusive. I could give hundreds more examples of horror stories I have personally heard from people about child abuse and calling something like cheating on tests as abusive is almost an insult to people who have gone though these sort of things.
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Emotional and verbal abuse is just as severe if not more so than physical abuse.
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Fact remains, what you stated is not infact abuse...perhaps there's an element that you missed, but as you stated it there, it's just something stupid, not abusive.
Also, if you're 13, you shouldn't be here. Thought it would certainly explain why you hate a parent. We all hate parents at that age.
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I'm not 13, I'm 21. I just lived with her for 13 years.
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Probably should have clarified that, too, then.
Honestly, how would you feel if you were my dad.
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I'd simply get a divorce. I probably would have long ago if she does stuff like that a lot.
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But what if you had a kid with her? Would you still get a divorce, then? What about your kid?
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If someone is abusive, divorce is best for the kid.
My dad is a drunkard ex con who was physically and emotionally abusive. He hit my mother. She eventually left, I was two and my brother was three months.
I don't wish my father dead. I'm just grateful he wasn't and isn't a big part of my life.
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I feel for you. It's horrible to have a parent that has an alcoholic problme.
But what if the abusive parent would try every which way to get parental rights of the kid? Wouldn't you stay for the kid? W
What if your dad decided he wanted to keep and starts to beat you? Wouldn't your mom want to stay to protect you guys?
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Mum did worry that he'd kill us when he had visitation right but he's too selfish...he values his own life and freedom more. His top priority was not having to pay child support.
I like to hope that the people in charge of the legal side of custody disputes would find in favour of the non abusive parent. I think this is largely the case, though I know it isn't always. I also am aware that it is often difficult for the abused partner to leave the abuser.
I still don't see how your mother is abusive, I'm sorry. I'm not saying she's not - I haven't met her or you - but your example really wasn't abusive, just fucking bizarre.
I will never understand why some people think divorce is bad for the kid.
I was fortunate to have good parents. They weren't abusive and are both good people.
At the same time, they did not get along with each other. They eventually got divorced and honestly it was somewhat of a relief.