As I go further into the discussion of the subject, it will be a bit more complex ideas. But let's begin with something quite simple.
Maybe sometimes you feel that your size not suits you, do not reflect what kind of person you are. In your statement you tell, that you are submissive when it comes to sex. Thinking about what kind of concepts are usually connected to penis sizes, a big penis is usually not considered the signature of a submissive person. So it may be a bit like introducing yourself by handing out someone elses business-card.
I said maybe. I don't know you, and I' not trying tot analyze you. I'm just saying "maybe". Maybe you look at it and think: "That is not who I am."
Then again - maybe you don't. I don't know. My reasons for saying this was just a short cut to something a bit more complicated.
Well, here it comes …
If at least you can deal with the thought of seeing a penis as a reflection of the person it belongs to, it shouldn't be that difficult to think of a penis as symbol. Not necessarily a sexual symbol, but a symbol of whatever it could mean and reflect to somebody.
It seems there are basically two kinds of penis-owners: those who are REALLY fond of it, and those who are definitely NOT. Very few are neutral. For most it is either love or hate.
Personally I think, that the reasons for that, is a matter of what it symbolizes for that person. If it symbolizes something positive, he loves his penis, if it symbolizes something negative, he hates it.
In both cases he will be reminded of whatever it symbolizes, every time he sees it. That means several times everyday, unless he is staring up at the ceiling when he's peeing. So a lot of reminders of something either positive or negative.
Now let's focus on the group for which it is symbolizing something negative. If you feel that way about your penis, you may not be able to divide your physical penis from what it symbolizes. An important point about this is, that it IS your specific penis, that symbolizes that. Not any other. Not even others that look a lot like yours. It is exactly THAT one and only copy that symbolizes that.
Therefore you can fall into a kind of "grass is always greener". Since no other symbolizes those unpleasant matters you are seeing in your own, everyone else seems better.
Believe me, it is possible to envy ANYTHING. Once a girl told me, that she always had very clean skin, so in her teenage years she envied the other girls' pimples. Simply a matter of what she had not - "the grass is always greener".
In this case the problem is, that concrete and symbolic are not separated enough, but mixed up with each other. You have some kind of problem, sorrow, worry or whatever it is, and you see your penis as a picture of that. Then comes the misunderstanding: you think you can get rid of whatever bothers you and solve the problem by replacing your penis with another.
Let's face it: that is not the way. Your penis is innocent of what ever it is, it just reminds you of it. If you got another one, that one would feel just as stressful.
Remember: it is NOT the problem. It is just a symbol of it. A new one will be exactly the same. You got to look at the problem it self to solve it.
To understand this in connection to get turned on, you must remember what I said about shifting tenses. Being reminded of something unpleasant is a tension. But turning your frustrations and fear to arousal, well like I told you: you get peace.
Well, at least for a while.
The problem isn't solved, and that damned penis will keep on reminding you about it. This is a tension too, and a matter of opposites as well: there is something, you don't want to think about, and you are constantly being reminded of it. That is truly stressing. It is not surprising if you feel, that your penis is driving you mad. But give it a go, and there's peace for a while.
But still - the problem is not solved. It is like taking a pill for pains. The pains are still there, and will come back as soon as the effect of the pill is over.
So - you are actually in some kind of mental prison.
Is it normal to wish my penis was smaller?
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As I go further into the discussion of the subject, it will be a bit more complex ideas. But let's begin with something quite simple.
Maybe sometimes you feel that your size not suits you, do not reflect what kind of person you are. In your statement you tell, that you are submissive when it comes to sex. Thinking about what kind of concepts are usually connected to penis sizes, a big penis is usually not considered the signature of a submissive person. So it may be a bit like introducing yourself by handing out someone elses business-card.
I said maybe. I don't know you, and I' not trying tot analyze you. I'm just saying "maybe". Maybe you look at it and think: "That is not who I am."
Then again - maybe you don't. I don't know. My reasons for saying this was just a short cut to something a bit more complicated.
Well, here it comes …
If at least you can deal with the thought of seeing a penis as a reflection of the person it belongs to, it shouldn't be that difficult to think of a penis as symbol. Not necessarily a sexual symbol, but a symbol of whatever it could mean and reflect to somebody.
It seems there are basically two kinds of penis-owners: those who are REALLY fond of it, and those who are definitely NOT. Very few are neutral. For most it is either love or hate.
Personally I think, that the reasons for that, is a matter of what it symbolizes for that person. If it symbolizes something positive, he loves his penis, if it symbolizes something negative, he hates it.
In both cases he will be reminded of whatever it symbolizes, every time he sees it. That means several times everyday, unless he is staring up at the ceiling when he's peeing. So a lot of reminders of something either positive or negative.
Now let's focus on the group for which it is symbolizing something negative. If you feel that way about your penis, you may not be able to divide your physical penis from what it symbolizes. An important point about this is, that it IS your specific penis, that symbolizes that. Not any other. Not even others that look a lot like yours. It is exactly THAT one and only copy that symbolizes that.
Therefore you can fall into a kind of "grass is always greener". Since no other symbolizes those unpleasant matters you are seeing in your own, everyone else seems better.
Believe me, it is possible to envy ANYTHING. Once a girl told me, that she always had very clean skin, so in her teenage years she envied the other girls' pimples. Simply a matter of what she had not - "the grass is always greener".
In this case the problem is, that concrete and symbolic are not separated enough, but mixed up with each other. You have some kind of problem, sorrow, worry or whatever it is, and you see your penis as a picture of that. Then comes the misunderstanding: you think you can get rid of whatever bothers you and solve the problem by replacing your penis with another.
Let's face it: that is not the way. Your penis is innocent of what ever it is, it just reminds you of it. If you got another one, that one would feel just as stressful.
Remember: it is NOT the problem. It is just a symbol of it. A new one will be exactly the same. You got to look at the problem it self to solve it.
To understand this in connection to get turned on, you must remember what I said about shifting tenses. Being reminded of something unpleasant is a tension. But turning your frustrations and fear to arousal, well like I told you: you get peace.
Well, at least for a while.
The problem isn't solved, and that damned penis will keep on reminding you about it. This is a tension too, and a matter of opposites as well: there is something, you don't want to think about, and you are constantly being reminded of it. That is truly stressing. It is not surprising if you feel, that your penis is driving you mad. But give it a go, and there's peace for a while.
But still - the problem is not solved. It is like taking a pill for pains. The pains are still there, and will come back as soon as the effect of the pill is over.
So - you are actually in some kind of mental prison.
Is there a solution?
I will get back to that question!