I have had this problem with people forever. I was never tight but over time when people tell you they love that you're always there for them whenever you need them but you realize that's never been mutual. Same with relationships. Unfortunately that caused me to develop a selfish streak and change. They gota prove themselves to me first. Surprisingly it worked and I found more giving guys whom I became their world. However I found there are people who wil for no reason initially put you on a pedistal till eventually it wears of fairly quickly then they do it again weird. Its a real documented behavior and type of person so watch out for those. They start out intense and you are just amazing. Its super quick tho like before they even know you they think they know you and you can do no wrong. Its neat till they decide oh you're not who I imagined you were next! I searched for slow to build appreciation and feelings. Ruled out previous repetative errors and I went from being cheated and used to stay at home mom with a wonderful baby on the way. My husband adores me, accepts and understands all of me even the very ugly past, anything he could give is mine but I'm so used to a long time of being taken from it was very difficult to adjust and accept I finally did it.
Thank you for your reply. It is awful how some people can just leave you when they don't need you anymore, and I do know at least 2 persons in my life just like that. Aside from what they did to me, I just hope they won't do that to other people in the future.
In my case, what kind of irked me was when someone asked for help and still complained that I didn't response quick enough or not doing a good job in helping them, and then whined and tried to make you feel guilty about it.
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I have had this problem with people forever. I was never tight but over time when people tell you they love that you're always there for them whenever you need them but you realize that's never been mutual. Same with relationships. Unfortunately that caused me to develop a selfish streak and change. They gota prove themselves to me first. Surprisingly it worked and I found more giving guys whom I became their world. However I found there are people who wil for no reason initially put you on a pedistal till eventually it wears of fairly quickly then they do it again weird. Its a real documented behavior and type of person so watch out for those. They start out intense and you are just amazing. Its super quick tho like before they even know you they think they know you and you can do no wrong. Its neat till they decide oh you're not who I imagined you were next! I searched for slow to build appreciation and feelings. Ruled out previous repetative errors and I went from being cheated and used to stay at home mom with a wonderful baby on the way. My husband adores me, accepts and understands all of me even the very ugly past, anything he could give is mine but I'm so used to a long time of being taken from it was very difficult to adjust and accept I finally did it.
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Thank you for your reply. It is awful how some people can just leave you when they don't need you anymore, and I do know at least 2 persons in my life just like that. Aside from what they did to me, I just hope they won't do that to other people in the future.
In my case, what kind of irked me was when someone asked for help and still complained that I didn't response quick enough or not doing a good job in helping them, and then whined and tried to make you feel guilty about it.