Is it normal to want your bf/gf?

Relationship info:
-Been together over a year & a half.
-Have had sex.
-Long-distance relationship.

I have been dating my baby for sometime now & I always tell her how much I love & care for her. She does not do the same. I have told her that sometimes I feel like she is not attracted to me & that I wish she would tell me she wanted me every now & then. She obliges for usually ONE day & then stops indefinitely. Until I start feeling unwanted again.

Me & her got in a little argument today about it where I said, "That's what you're supposed to do. You're supposed to want your man & he's supposed to want you back. Why would you be with someone you didn't want?"

She replied, "That's what I'm SUPPOSED to do? Why?"

Is It Normal?
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  • Well in my opinion, it seems she doesn't love you that much or maybe not at all, I mean she even asked you a question which she's already supposed to know the answer to!
    Ofcourse you're supposed to want your gf or bf if you're in love, otherwise its just all fake.
    You deserve someone better.

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  • Aww. big hugs! Me and you are on the same boat expect the roles are reversed. I'm the one who is in your shoes whereas my bf is in your gfs. I think you need to communicate more. She may not be a type of person who easily displaye emotions. But if she is of willing to compromise and make you feel wantented than its to fairon you at all. I had this debate with my bf and since then he has started to change, es heroes relapse because people don't change or night but he is trying and he is showing more affection that he ever has.

    Talk to her. Tell her how it makes you feel and honestly if she is not willing to change to make you feel happy than what makes you think this girl will stick around? Find someone who will reciprocate the feelings back, I know you may love her but, you are thinking about her and she obviously does not seem to be thinking about you. You are the only one who can make the decision in the end.

    Xx

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  • I think it's normal, I don't think it's really necessary to say "I love you" to your partner because they obviously already know and sometimes love can't be expressed in words, I feel that those words really pointless. I won't say those words often even if i love someone because saying those words just isn't me. And since you already told her about it, you made her really aware of it and that'll make her even more nervous when she's going to say those words because that'll make her not seem like herself.

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  • She's one of those old fashioned girls that believes guys should give more attention to the girl than they should to the guy. It's normal.

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  • You can do better than her. Right?

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  • shes a gold digger if shes staying with you and she doesnt like you(or maybe your just unatractive or maybe shes just a prude)

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  • When it comes to this particular issue it's usually the other way around. I mean a woman complaining about her man not showing emotions or not saying enough Iloveyous.

    Anyway, a relationship is supposed to make you feel wanted, loved and cared for. If this girl doesn't give you that, just it end off.

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    • i used to be quite taken aback by the I love yous'. mind you, i used to get them all the time. now i only get them during sex :D

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  • wow shes a bitch man.... she probably fucking with some1 els behind you back.

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  • she sounds like me. i was raised not to show affection or compromise to men. my mom is somewhat of man-hater; she's told me never to reveal my affections to men until they fulfill certain superficial requirements (e.g. car, spending money, etc...).

    at one point in my life, i found this utterly ridiculous, and went into a relationship where the guy had no car and where our financial efforts are more or less equal. i can say that--having shed a lot of pre-programmed bullshit--i am in a loving relationship.

    you might want to inquire about your GF's familial background, and whether she wasn't raised as one of these girls.

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  • I think she is looking for something diferent in a relationship, she sounds like she is not ready to be commited. DOn't waste your life waiting on her, if she really liked you it should have shown within the year & half you have been together.

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  • She doesn't seem to want you as much as you want her. It happens, but i think it's odd that she'd stay in a relationship with you when she doesn't love you or want you that much. Unless she does but she holds back, but I don't see the reason to do this either. I'm not sure why she acts the way she does, but it doesn't seem normal.

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