Is it normal to want to watch my girlfriend with another guy?

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I'm 27and my girlfriend is 23, we're happily engaged and have a great sex life.

when we have sex we both fantasise about another man joining us and me watching and occasionally joining in. it turns us both on, the thing is after sex the fantasy doesn't get talked about.

we are going away on holiday to Mexico in a week and I'm desperate to find a stranger to help us out, how do I approach this to my girlfriend and what's the thoughts, can the relationship work after this?

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  • sleepingbeauty
    11 years ago | pl

    Why do these kind of stories always open with 'we have a great sex life'? No you don't, if you did you wouldn't want to involve someone else in it. Something must be missing if you need a third person to satisfy your sexual urges.

    Fantasy to stimulate your sex life is one thing, doing it for real says something is missing in your relationship.

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  • owenfox
    11 years ago | pl

    thanks for both comments, I appreciate you don't think we do but finding fantasies a turn on and acting them
    out I feel is healthy, I do satisfy her (I think) and just seeing and hearing the stories turn me on.. where do I start though, websites etc??

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    • sleepingbeauty
      11 years ago | pl

      "acting out" is the key wording here. Acting out fantasies...in other words 'pretending' is fine. Doing it for real though? Your choice, but be prepared for your relationship to change forever. Definitely not my cup of tea.

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  • graphic_nature
    11 years ago | pl

    I've seen a situation similar to this where the guy admitted to feeling guilty about not being able to sexually satisfy his wife and that was the reason he wanted to bring another man in, which is sad.
    I'd say if it's something you really want to do then get her all worked up and wet then ask her how she'd feel about it, if she thinks it's a good idea then tell her you can put the plan in motion.

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