I come from the UK and started university a year ago, but my situation was similar to yours. My years in primary and secondary school as well as sixth form (pre university) were spent as part of a large group of friends. In hindsight, we weren't people who would have naturally gravitated together and as the years progressed our differences became more evident. This time last year I realised that I had 'outgrown' my friends; not that I was better than them or anything, we had developed distinct interests which we were all going to pursue on different paths. We went on one last group holiday in the Summer then started university in the Autumn. Over time, aside from the occasional "Hey, how you doing?" message we've lost contact - upon starting university you meet lots people with more compatible interests and world views. The three year relationship I have with my girlfriend has remained strong but otherwise, my friendship group has drifted their different ways and met new people. So yes, your situation is perfectly normal
Also, I take it you're a few years away from university. Even a few months before I applied, what I thought I was going to be studying and where I was considering going to changed completely. Move out of town for university, as that in itself is a very good experience and do not tie yourself to your friend, don't discuss university with her and certainly, if she brings the subject about applying to various colleges up say you're "still considering". When push comes to shove and she asks you why you're refusing to apply to the same institutions as her, simply say that the course prospectus isn't what you are interested in!
Is it normal to want to separate from friends when college starts?
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I come from the UK and started university a year ago, but my situation was similar to yours. My years in primary and secondary school as well as sixth form (pre university) were spent as part of a large group of friends. In hindsight, we weren't people who would have naturally gravitated together and as the years progressed our differences became more evident. This time last year I realised that I had 'outgrown' my friends; not that I was better than them or anything, we had developed distinct interests which we were all going to pursue on different paths. We went on one last group holiday in the Summer then started university in the Autumn. Over time, aside from the occasional "Hey, how you doing?" message we've lost contact - upon starting university you meet lots people with more compatible interests and world views. The three year relationship I have with my girlfriend has remained strong but otherwise, my friendship group has drifted their different ways and met new people. So yes, your situation is perfectly normal
Also, I take it you're a few years away from university. Even a few months before I applied, what I thought I was going to be studying and where I was considering going to changed completely. Move out of town for university, as that in itself is a very good experience and do not tie yourself to your friend, don't discuss university with her and certainly, if she brings the subject about applying to various colleges up say you're "still considering". When push comes to shove and she asks you why you're refusing to apply to the same institutions as her, simply say that the course prospectus isn't what you are interested in!