You should have respected his want to stay near you for college. Your ex probably did weigh up his choices and if that's what he liked, that's what he liked.
Don't literally show up on his doorstep. There's a chance he won't even be at home, plus, you could shock a potentially negative reaction out of him if he is at home. Give him some time to think about it. There's always a possibility that he's already dating someone else and that he already moved on from you.
Send a letter. Don't expect anything back. Try to stay calm while you pass the time. Maybe link this IIN post?
Crow is 100% right. He may have moved on, or is at least dating someone else. You don't want to walk into that situation. Even if he is with someone else right now, your letter may be the motivation he needs to end that relationship and come back to you.
Best thing you can do is give it time, and, don't get nosey about what he has been up to SINCE you broke it off. Any girls he's been with are inconsequential at this time, and likely, he did find someone on the "rebound". But, that shouldn't stop you. You just might have to wait until the time is right.
First time I met my wife, asked her out, she was already in a long-term relationship.
I didn't forget about her, just moved on.
About a year and a half later, saw her again, she had broke up with him, she was not seeing anyone, I wasn't seeing anyone, we fell in love, FAST. It was meant to be.
I was going to go with a letter anyways. I am better at organizing my thoughts on paper. I know. I wouldn't blame him or get all nosey about other girls because I did go on a few dates with a guy myself. (I learned I really just missed my ex rather than actually falling for the guy.)
Is it normal to want to see my ex 5-10 years in the future?
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You should have respected his want to stay near you for college. Your ex probably did weigh up his choices and if that's what he liked, that's what he liked.
Don't literally show up on his doorstep. There's a chance he won't even be at home, plus, you could shock a potentially negative reaction out of him if he is at home. Give him some time to think about it. There's always a possibility that he's already dating someone else and that he already moved on from you.
Send a letter. Don't expect anything back. Try to stay calm while you pass the time. Maybe link this IIN post?
Good luck, anyway.
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Crow is 100% right. He may have moved on, or is at least dating someone else. You don't want to walk into that situation. Even if he is with someone else right now, your letter may be the motivation he needs to end that relationship and come back to you.
Best thing you can do is give it time, and, don't get nosey about what he has been up to SINCE you broke it off. Any girls he's been with are inconsequential at this time, and likely, he did find someone on the "rebound". But, that shouldn't stop you. You just might have to wait until the time is right.
First time I met my wife, asked her out, she was already in a long-term relationship.
I didn't forget about her, just moved on.
About a year and a half later, saw her again, she had broke up with him, she was not seeing anyone, I wasn't seeing anyone, we fell in love, FAST. It was meant to be.
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I was going to go with a letter anyways. I am better at organizing my thoughts on paper. I know. I wouldn't blame him or get all nosey about other girls because I did go on a few dates with a guy myself. (I learned I really just missed my ex rather than actually falling for the guy.)