A letter is a good start. But, don't expect a reply. Send the letter, give it some time, then, go show up.
Do it right away.
Be short and concise in the letter. Don't blame him for ANYTHING! Apologize, tell him how much you think it was a mistake to ever break up, that is was your fault, and that you'd like to see him again, look forward to seeing him and discussing your relationship in person. Don't tell him you plan to come see him unannounced, but, I'd at least do that if he doesn't respond. Then, you at least have a starting place for the conversation. And, I'd send it as a hand-written letter, not an email. Too easy for someone to say "I never got your email, musta gotten lost", plus, a hand-written letter is much more personal.
But, doesn't he come home at some point? Maybe you can plan to see him then, if it isn't too long from now.
As for him seeing other girls while at school. You have so little faith in him and yourself? Come one. There are other guys at home too, right? Who knows what either of you are gonna find in the future, you may not last forever, or you might. Take it one day at a time. My advice would be, if you DO get back together with him, keep the relationship on a POSITIVE note at all times. That doesn't mean you might not ever disagree, or have an argument, BUT, never leave angry....saying "I am sorry" is the BEST thing you can do in ANY relationship, not just long distance ones.
You should also let him know how you feel about him, often. Tell him you think you are lucky to have found him, how good you think you two are together, both now and in the future. You got to remind people of why you are together. Then, when you are together, find special things to do, try going someplace you have never been, or doing something you have never done. Then, later, you have things you can reminisce about. Keep a photo album to look back at on occasions. Don't be that crazy chick that keeps an elaborate scrap-book that takes hours to compile and yanks it out every time you get together, just, something simple, and, look at it together every few months, or, on a special occasion like your anniversary.
My wife and I still look at pics from when we were first together, it reminds me of how hot she was, how much fun we had, and why we are still together....so, that, when she does things that PISS ME OFF, I can remember why I fell in love with her in the first place, and, that life is full of twists in the road....not everything is gonna be smooth sailing.
Anyway, I'd love to find out what happens. Keep letting us know. Good luck!!!
Is it normal to want to see my ex 5-10 years in the future?
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Hmm I think I will see him. Should I just show up on his doorstep? Or should I send him a letter first?
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Sorry, was off doing other posts.
A letter is a good start. But, don't expect a reply. Send the letter, give it some time, then, go show up.
Do it right away.
Be short and concise in the letter. Don't blame him for ANYTHING! Apologize, tell him how much you think it was a mistake to ever break up, that is was your fault, and that you'd like to see him again, look forward to seeing him and discussing your relationship in person. Don't tell him you plan to come see him unannounced, but, I'd at least do that if he doesn't respond. Then, you at least have a starting place for the conversation. And, I'd send it as a hand-written letter, not an email. Too easy for someone to say "I never got your email, musta gotten lost", plus, a hand-written letter is much more personal.
But, doesn't he come home at some point? Maybe you can plan to see him then, if it isn't too long from now.
As for him seeing other girls while at school. You have so little faith in him and yourself? Come one. There are other guys at home too, right? Who knows what either of you are gonna find in the future, you may not last forever, or you might. Take it one day at a time. My advice would be, if you DO get back together with him, keep the relationship on a POSITIVE note at all times. That doesn't mean you might not ever disagree, or have an argument, BUT, never leave angry....saying "I am sorry" is the BEST thing you can do in ANY relationship, not just long distance ones.
You should also let him know how you feel about him, often. Tell him you think you are lucky to have found him, how good you think you two are together, both now and in the future. You got to remind people of why you are together. Then, when you are together, find special things to do, try going someplace you have never been, or doing something you have never done. Then, later, you have things you can reminisce about. Keep a photo album to look back at on occasions. Don't be that crazy chick that keeps an elaborate scrap-book that takes hours to compile and yanks it out every time you get together, just, something simple, and, look at it together every few months, or, on a special occasion like your anniversary.
My wife and I still look at pics from when we were first together, it reminds me of how hot she was, how much fun we had, and why we are still together....so, that, when she does things that PISS ME OFF, I can remember why I fell in love with her in the first place, and, that life is full of twists in the road....not everything is gonna be smooth sailing.
Anyway, I'd love to find out what happens. Keep letting us know. Good luck!!!