It sounds like you're not asking for real relationship advice, but rather permission to cheat on your husband.
If you believe what he's done to you is wrong, than doing it to him is also wrong. By no means does that mean that you have to put up with that kind of emotional suffering.
YOU DESERVE BETTER.
If you really want to stay with him, put your best effort into working on your marriage. You need to let him know how unhappy you are, and that you won't stick around to be treated like garbage.
If he doesn't get the message, leave. An unhappy marriage can be just as harmful on children as a divorce, and trying to hold things together through your misery might not be as good of an option as you think it is. The bottom line is that you need to take of yourself, and if the marriage is destructive AND really can't be fixed, leave him with the divorce papers and go fuck that other guy.
(However, if you're facing a potentially dangerous or abusive situation, I'd advise you to get real help outside of 'is it normal')
Is it normal to want to pursue this?
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It sounds like you're not asking for real relationship advice, but rather permission to cheat on your husband.
If you believe what he's done to you is wrong, than doing it to him is also wrong. By no means does that mean that you have to put up with that kind of emotional suffering.
YOU DESERVE BETTER.
If you really want to stay with him, put your best effort into working on your marriage. You need to let him know how unhappy you are, and that you won't stick around to be treated like garbage.
If he doesn't get the message, leave. An unhappy marriage can be just as harmful on children as a divorce, and trying to hold things together through your misery might not be as good of an option as you think it is. The bottom line is that you need to take of yourself, and if the marriage is destructive AND really can't be fixed, leave him with the divorce papers and go fuck that other guy.
(However, if you're facing a potentially dangerous or abusive situation, I'd advise you to get real help outside of 'is it normal')