It isn't healthy, but it's common and it's normal. The part of you that wants to make it work remembers the early romantic feelings and wants that back, even though that isn't rational or realistic. You'll want to keep the sex part even if it was the only part of the relationship that worked and you know it.
We do it all the time. The laptop we love but it's loaded with malware. A dream house that's riddled with termite and water damage. A pair of shoes that look great on you but hurt to walk in. The car you love but spends half the time in the shop. This is all normal, but you're going to be miserable until you realize that it's a package deal and you really do need a new laptop, you have to move, you have to donate the shoes to a charity, you have to trade the car in. That's hard to do because you're emotionally attached, but your only chance at happiness is to make that leap, and it's a leap into the unknown. You aren't leaping into happiness, merely leaping away from unhappiness. But it does improve your chances.
Is it normal to want to make it work
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It isn't healthy, but it's common and it's normal. The part of you that wants to make it work remembers the early romantic feelings and wants that back, even though that isn't rational or realistic. You'll want to keep the sex part even if it was the only part of the relationship that worked and you know it.
We do it all the time. The laptop we love but it's loaded with malware. A dream house that's riddled with termite and water damage. A pair of shoes that look great on you but hurt to walk in. The car you love but spends half the time in the shop. This is all normal, but you're going to be miserable until you realize that it's a package deal and you really do need a new laptop, you have to move, you have to donate the shoes to a charity, you have to trade the car in. That's hard to do because you're emotionally attached, but your only chance at happiness is to make that leap, and it's a leap into the unknown. You aren't leaping into happiness, merely leaping away from unhappiness. But it does improve your chances.