ok first of all i came to this forum to ask for advice, i didnt post here so people (when i say other people i mean those like petawawacouple69 and den411.) who apparently like to make others feel shittier than they already feel. to me that kind of shit right there is a reach for help, but thats a completely other topic, everybody fucks up in life at some point, im sure none of you others would appreciate me sayin how screwed up your lives are, point being im simply askin for honest advice im not asking to be treated like some rapist or murderer! if all you wanna do is bash me with rude comments dont bother posting, otherwise please leave some advice.. NOW back to the topic at hand, a little factoid of info, my wife anticipated getting prego simply to use the child as leverage in our relationship, (and she does) she uses our baby like a knife to my throat, yes i understand i should have been using protection, and yes i should have been more careful, but again, mistakes happen especially me being unaware of her intentions. and at this point our baby is almost 9 months old, and nothing between me and my wife has changed, although now, she does nothing but sleep and eat all day, and she doesnt do ANY housework,im not complaining im only justifying why i feel the way i do, i work all day and have to come home and cant even find a clean spot on the couch to relax because of the wrappers and dishes and shit she leaves behind, i might as well be living with a house of 10 year olds, (well even a houseful of 10 year olds would stay cleaner than it is now)ive tried compromising with her, making a cleaning schedule, arranging babysitters so that both of us can take a few hours to clean, but that doesnt even last, nothing i say to her helps, and she has even looked at me and said to my face that she is lazy and she shouldnt have to cook and clean, and her bigest excuse is that she has to watch the baby, now how many other SINGLE parents are out there who work, clean cook and watch their baby and they can pull it off, so why should she be any different? and i have been worried several times because ive come home from work and noticed a scratch or small bruise on the baby, and when i ask her about it she admits that the baby fell and bumped its head or scratched itself, but even so, apparently she isnt watching our child as well as she should or she wouldnt have any bumps or bruises and sometimes ill catch her in theact, ill lay in bed and hear noises and stuff bangin around and falling only to come out and find that she is letting the child climb on stnds and pull crap of counters but as soon as she knows that i have caught her is the only time she will actually get up and supervise our baby, oherwise if im gone then she lets our eigh month old run the house. and its rdiculous. this is why i feel the way i do
is it normal to want to leave my wife
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ok first of all i came to this forum to ask for advice, i didnt post here so people (when i say other people i mean those like petawawacouple69 and den411.) who apparently like to make others feel shittier than they already feel. to me that kind of shit right there is a reach for help, but thats a completely other topic, everybody fucks up in life at some point, im sure none of you others would appreciate me sayin how screwed up your lives are, point being im simply askin for honest advice im not asking to be treated like some rapist or murderer! if all you wanna do is bash me with rude comments dont bother posting, otherwise please leave some advice.. NOW back to the topic at hand, a little factoid of info, my wife anticipated getting prego simply to use the child as leverage in our relationship, (and she does) she uses our baby like a knife to my throat, yes i understand i should have been using protection, and yes i should have been more careful, but again, mistakes happen especially me being unaware of her intentions. and at this point our baby is almost 9 months old, and nothing between me and my wife has changed, although now, she does nothing but sleep and eat all day, and she doesnt do ANY housework,im not complaining im only justifying why i feel the way i do, i work all day and have to come home and cant even find a clean spot on the couch to relax because of the wrappers and dishes and shit she leaves behind, i might as well be living with a house of 10 year olds, (well even a houseful of 10 year olds would stay cleaner than it is now)ive tried compromising with her, making a cleaning schedule, arranging babysitters so that both of us can take a few hours to clean, but that doesnt even last, nothing i say to her helps, and she has even looked at me and said to my face that she is lazy and she shouldnt have to cook and clean, and her bigest excuse is that she has to watch the baby, now how many other SINGLE parents are out there who work, clean cook and watch their baby and they can pull it off, so why should she be any different? and i have been worried several times because ive come home from work and noticed a scratch or small bruise on the baby, and when i ask her about it she admits that the baby fell and bumped its head or scratched itself, but even so, apparently she isnt watching our child as well as she should or she wouldnt have any bumps or bruises and sometimes ill catch her in theact, ill lay in bed and hear noises and stuff bangin around and falling only to come out and find that she is letting the child climb on stnds and pull crap of counters but as soon as she knows that i have caught her is the only time she will actually get up and supervise our baby, oherwise if im gone then she lets our eigh month old run the house. and its rdiculous. this is why i feel the way i do