Pregnancy and the months following the birth are a difficult time in a marriage. Pregnancy, because it interrupts the sex life and some men feel the need to stray.
But the birth of the first child in particular because this woman who you previously saw as a sexual creature is now a mother. Not only that, but her attention is devoted (quite rightly) to the newborn. You may be feeling jealous, left out, unwanted.
In short, you are not a bad person. You are experiencing something which is apparently quite normal for men. My personal opinion is that you have to dig in and be selfless and patient (for at least a couple of years) and you will probably find your feelings come back.
Although bringing up kids is going to be one of the hardest things you ever do, it's supposed to be the most rewarding. Stick with it.
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Pregnancy and the months following the birth are a difficult time in a marriage. Pregnancy, because it interrupts the sex life and some men feel the need to stray.
But the birth of the first child in particular because this woman who you previously saw as a sexual creature is now a mother. Not only that, but her attention is devoted (quite rightly) to the newborn. You may be feeling jealous, left out, unwanted.
In short, you are not a bad person. You are experiencing something which is apparently quite normal for men. My personal opinion is that you have to dig in and be selfless and patient (for at least a couple of years) and you will probably find your feelings come back.
Although bringing up kids is going to be one of the hardest things you ever do, it's supposed to be the most rewarding. Stick with it.