Is it normal to want to leave but cant?

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Me and my husband have grown so far apart. I feel like he doesn't know me and I don't know him even though we see each other every day. We fight all the time and say super hurtful things and even break up, but later decide to try to work it out for the kids. 3 with 2 under the age of 2. We can't work it out, same fights for 3 years but I'm afraid to do it alone and sepesate the kids from a 2 parent home. What should I do? Stay and try to work on it, be miserable? Or do it alone, be stressed? What's best for the kids?

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Based on 39 votes (29 yes)
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  • mtnw
    13 years ago

    how about trying counseling first.

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    I think you two need a mediator.

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  • Sweetcat
    13 years ago

    Work it out, don't just quit on Ur marriage.
    **Good Luck**

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  • vaprick53
    13 years ago

    Divorce the prick, then let custody go to him. Yes I know it'll be difficult, but if you can't support your children right now, put it off on him until you can. Not to sound cold, but if all goes well your kids won't remember a thing anyway.

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  • sportsmom
    13 years ago

    Thank you all for your comments. We have begun going to church and are going to try to work it out.

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  • BlackShadow123
    13 years ago

    Besides, let me add that kids arent stupid and they wont be happy if you guys arent happy.

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  • BlackShadow123
    13 years ago

    Leave him.
    your kids will be fine.
    I would know.
    My dad has been through many divorces and so has my mom.
    I turned out fine. =]

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  • klewis7884
    13 years ago

    You should try all the above suggestions, but ultimately a happier you equals a happier better mom. Think about this when making any future decisions for you and your kids.

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  • lewlew80
    13 years ago

    Leave

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  • yayasaga
    13 years ago

    So I was in a similar situation and wad feeling the same way. But maybe you should try reading dr Laura. Her book proper care and feeding of marriage is extremely insightful and a huge help if not life (or at least relationship) altering. I didn't want to read it at first either I'm not even a fan of her really. But I finally did and am glad. It has made a huge difference and just reminds people of a few basic life rules really I think get forgotten. If you really want to try for your kids and your family you'll read it. Or something to that effect. Good luck!!!

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  • JessieLou89
    13 years ago

    Separate u can't spend ur life unhappy and miserable because your not helping ur kids that way it will rub off on them go and behappy your kids will be fine do what makes u happy

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  • sportsmom
    13 years ago

    *seperate

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