Is it normal to want to have a baby so young?

I'm actually really disturbed by the comments you've had. You say you are in a loving relationship, and you want a family. I can't for the life of me see why anyone would criticise that, so let's assume that's not their problem.

You are apparently a "single mother" even though you have a partner. Fair enough, you're not married, but plenty of my friends have parents who didn't marry until after the kids were born. Bad people? I don't think so.

Finally, there's an assumption that you don't have a job and can't support a child. Nowhere in your post does it say that you can't support a child and that you expect others to pay for it.

Based solely on assumption, you have been called a dog, a scrounger, and black (like that's even an insult).

All I can say is that you should try not to be brought down by people's ignorance and willingness to jump to conclusions. If you can support a child, your partner is happy with it, and you feel you (and your relationship) are ready for this step, then I wish you all the luck in the world and hope that motherhood brings you the kind of joy you imagine it will.

Well said dappled.

Babysit for people who have more than 1 kid. And see if you still want them..
Honestly it sounds like your trying to trap the guy you love into a life long relationship. Wait till your married to have kids.

Give it up to adoption so it can have proper parenting. The world doesn't need another fucked up kid.

Aw I love babies but I'm not ready I've been with my boyfriend fit 4 years and I'm 20 think of what you will miss out on clubbing going to the movies sleeping and think about whether you and your boyfriend are deffo stable enough to have a child arguing is awfull even worse when your child is in the room just really think about it and if you decide you still wanna then all the best girl :)

5 months into a relationship and you dont use protection? do you do this in all of your relationships? have you been tested for STDs lately?

thats not young

Yeah that's exactly what this country needs another single mom. You're not going to find love by forcing some poor kid into creating a family he probably doesn't want or creating a child you aren't mature enough to care for.

Sure. Can't wait to start paying your welfare with my tax dollars!

No that's not good. You are too young and no where near being financially stable to support another human being. Its chicks like you that make me feel hatred and disgust towards pregnancy.

A baby will strain your relationship and put it to the test. Just because you're ready doesn't mean he is. You BOTH have to be mentally, financially and physically ready. It's a very hard job. I became pregnant at 16 and a mother at 17. Never did I think I would be a single mother but I was starting the day I found out until now. I have worked my tail off to provide everything I possibly can for my daughter. I love her more than two parents possibly could. I am 23 now and do not live off the state. I work a full time job to give her the best that I can and to never let her see me break.

You have to have the desire and the strength to do whatever it takes to make the best life for your child. Happy parent(s) make happy child(ren). That's the best advice I can give you.

If you are over your partying stage thats fine to want a family.. just don't jump into it and find out later that you think the baby took away your time to be you and live your youth (especially not being 21 yet and having the chance to go to bars and clubs) because then you will resent the child and/or your boyfriend for it. If you are the stay at home type and don't think you will want to live your life for you at 21 then go for it.. just remember that after a baby comes nothing you do is for you anymore, it all revolves around the child. Kiss going out and partying goodbye because you won't have the time or the money.

these days, females are exceptionally mature at the age of twenty. there is no reason for anybody to doubt your ability at being a good mother. If you are able to support it, have the support of your boyfriend, and are keeping it for the right reasons then there is NOTHING wrong with your situation. Children are a beautiful miracle that can bring joy to even the most dismal lives. And for anyone who has badmouthed this young woman and has left rude comments F*UCK YOU!

I'm sorry but 20 is too young and the person above - a child at 15? That is sick, a child having a child!!!!
You've only been together 5 months, that is nowhere near long enough to establish you both want the same things in life and even at 20 you still have a lot of growing up to do. You could easily grow apart from each other.
Do you realise how much of a commitment having children is, once you're past the baby stage you've still got another 18 years of care, your life is pretty much over.
At least do the things you want to do first, see the world, experience life, get yourself well educated (though you already may be) and enjoy yourself.
This is the problem today, too many people chucking their lives away to have kids when there is a huge world out there for them to explore, you only get one shot at this life!

I think it is pretty hormonal and totally normal. My first baby urges were right around that age. I wasn't in a relationship at that point though and didn't end up having a baby until 2 or 3 years after those urges and thoughts started arising.

good luck to you but just something to think about......lots of men use excuses to not put the child first, to leave after a while and think they can go on with their lives and not be judged for their selfishness and immaturity. history judges them, society judges them, the world judges them. no excuses cut it. the child comes first. period. my advice to you is bring this up to your boyfriend and see if he is good father material. He is young but if you see aggression or he gets nasty you know there is probly not going to be a good father in that childs life.

well..if you're mature enough, financially stable, and the baby's father will be around, i say go for it. good luck to you.

You're not even married and somehow, I feel you're just trolling...hmmmm..

Well maybe Congratulations :)

20/21 is not too young at all.. I know a girl that had her first baby at 15 and shes just had her second baby now at 17 and is doing amazing! I think its more important how you can be as a mum :)

Dog!