Is it normal to want to "do it" in that place?

My grand daughter told me about this site a few days ago. I don't know who else to turn to, so I decided to give this a try. My husband and I will be celebrating our 40th anniversary in a few weeks. We each wanted to do something special to commemorate this landmark in our wonderful relationship. I asked him what he would like to do, and he disclosed to me his desire to have anal sex. He explained that it's always been a fantasy of his, but he was always too afraid to ask. This revelation completely shocked me. I do not understand why someone would desire to perform such an act. It seems completely filthy to me. The fact that he'd been hiding this from me for so many years worries me as well. Why would a normal man really want to do this? It seems like something out of a smut film. I tried to search the internet for more information on this act, but all I find is more filth. I don't know who else to ask, as I'm afraid to go to my friends. I've thought of speaking to our children, but it's just too embarrassing. Even the thought of disclosing my fears to our Reverend brings about a feeling of intense shame. Is this something that men really do, or is this an act mostly practiced by drug addicts, fast women and homosexuals? What should I do? I'm really worried about him.

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  • It's very normal. Wouldn't it be great if you ended up discovering a whole new level of sexual intimacy with your husband of 40 years? It might not be your thing but you won't know until you try. Be gentle at first and use lubricant.

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  • This is completely normal! Give it a try, (it wont be very much fun, trust me (use a lubricant)) and see if you like it. There is nothing wrong with getting creative when it comes to sex sometimes;)

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  • There's nothing wrong with trying news things. Actually your husbands probably loves you very much to want something so bad for 40 years and hold it in, in a effort not to make you uncomfortable has to really care about you.

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  • It's very taboo but much more common than people think. Don't think bad of your husband. Just take things slow.

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  • Also if u look up the subject on this app/w,site u will prob learn a lot!

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  • Your husband probably feels the same way about it that you do.. thats why he has been keeping quiet for so long... Anal sex isnt just for drug addicts, fast women and homosexuals, but it certaintly isnt for everyone. Just be really carefull, because your attempt at marking a special event could turn out really awful, it could be really painful, messy and not plessurable for you, or you might both really enjoy it. If you do go for it, look up tips on making it easy, such as taking it slow and using lubricants. Good luck :)

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  • You need to discuss this with your husband. What two consenting adults do in the privacy of their own home is mo one els's business. There is nothing wrong with a husband and wife sexually experimenting together in the privacy of your own home.

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