You should act your fuc**ing age, and leave her alone. If her marriage sucks, she should leave it, regardless of kids. Staying married "for the kids" is a bullshit excuse. Half the marriages in the US end in divorce, and it's better for the kids to have a peaceful life, even if it's with a single parent.
Married people who stay in a marriage, AND cheat, aren't great role-models, when it comes to integrity.
Ultimately, this woman is a liar, and while I can't speak for you, I can say that I absolutely HATE dishonest people, whether they are M/F or married or not.
You failed to mention your ages, how you met, and whether YOU were ever married.
Well, we're both in our 30s, and we met at work. We started off just chatting like co-workers, and we got along well and became work friends, I was attracted to her, but I kept my distance because I knew she was married. Then she asked me one time if I wanted to make out with her in my car during break.
I suppose I could have said no at that point, but the truth is that I do like her, and I don't know her husband, so I decided to just say "yes". It hasn't gone much further since that point, and maybe it's wrong to even go this far, but the way she talks about her husband makes it seem like I give her a certain amount of comfort in her life that he hasn't given her in a long time.
However, he also provides for her and that's something I can't financially do for her at this point.
I just feel like she gets something from each of us, and it would be a shame if she lost either one of us.
I mean, also... I'm poly to begin with, and she knows this as well, so a non-exclusive relationship is nothing new for me... this is just the first time where I've gotten involved with somebody monogamous, and I kind of feel like I'm doing the wrong thing, but I also feel like if I end things I would end up hurting her. Which is why I feel conflicted...
IIN to want to dedicate your life to a woman who's married to someone else?
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You should act your fuc**ing age, and leave her alone. If her marriage sucks, she should leave it, regardless of kids. Staying married "for the kids" is a bullshit excuse. Half the marriages in the US end in divorce, and it's better for the kids to have a peaceful life, even if it's with a single parent.
Married people who stay in a marriage, AND cheat, aren't great role-models, when it comes to integrity.
Ultimately, this woman is a liar, and while I can't speak for you, I can say that I absolutely HATE dishonest people, whether they are M/F or married or not.
You failed to mention your ages, how you met, and whether YOU were ever married.
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Well, we're both in our 30s, and we met at work. We started off just chatting like co-workers, and we got along well and became work friends, I was attracted to her, but I kept my distance because I knew she was married. Then she asked me one time if I wanted to make out with her in my car during break.
I suppose I could have said no at that point, but the truth is that I do like her, and I don't know her husband, so I decided to just say "yes". It hasn't gone much further since that point, and maybe it's wrong to even go this far, but the way she talks about her husband makes it seem like I give her a certain amount of comfort in her life that he hasn't given her in a long time.
However, he also provides for her and that's something I can't financially do for her at this point.
I just feel like she gets something from each of us, and it would be a shame if she lost either one of us.
I mean, also... I'm poly to begin with, and she knows this as well, so a non-exclusive relationship is nothing new for me... this is just the first time where I've gotten involved with somebody monogamous, and I kind of feel like I'm doing the wrong thing, but I also feel like if I end things I would end up hurting her. Which is why I feel conflicted...
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Ok.... so you're "poly". ARE YOU MARRIED ?!
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No, not married. Not sure how that would change anything.
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Because you have no marriage to risk, on-the-line. If you 2 get caught, you get off easy, SHE will be fucked. You're pretty selfish.
If you were a REAL friend, you'd help her with advice, not help her, into your bed.