Is it normal to want to date friends ex.

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Iv been best friends with this guy for years. Like since 1st grade and I'm 19 now. But he recently got a mustang and has "changed" thinking he's so bad ass ect. Anyways he's had a gf for almost a little over a year and they live an hour away. So it's mostly a weekend thing. But when they are apart all they do is argue over text and when she comes to town all they do is makeout and have sex. He broke up with her before prom like a month before it and has good reasons but got back together.. His parents love her. But he ended up dumpin her again. But she still came to town this weekend. To work with his mom. I'm there for her and I want her comfortable. She's been upset and said it was really akward. But a group of my friends ended up going aomehere and didn't bother invitn her when she was right there so I said she could come. And she rode with me.. And did for the rest of the night. Her ex completly ignored her all night. So I was there and me her and 2 other friends ended up hanging out and goin for a walk. I'm not sure if she likes me that way but I like her... I think. We were discussing kissing earlier that day and she said "just ask a girl if u can pratice" i'm not sure if she was hinting or what. She also said she is afraid she's gonna be single and no one likes her... I just wanna tell her I do but idk. :(

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  • ericaxoxo
    13 years ago | pl

    Are you fucked,no matter how much your dick is attracted to her you don't date your best friends ex ever EVER,doesn't it bother you that they where together first?and she might even still have feelings for him ,or even worse he might still have feelings for her and you'll lose a friendship,like seriously what's wrong with people these days..

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  • jackehboy
    13 years ago | pl

    I know she likes me idiot. Don't tell me what I can and can't do. She came to town to work for his mom. Not see him.. But he shouldn't ignore her... And I know she likes me now..

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    • LaughinSkull
      11 years ago | pl

      I have to agree with the other posters (not the first person). I mean how good of friends are you with this guy? You were friends since 1st grade that has to mean something... and now you're fooling around with his ex? Not cool.

      Regardless of the situation you still are in the zone to be a "rebound". Shes in a tough spot and you're there to comfort her. But usually relationships like that don't last.

      If you even care about your so called friend smack yourself and come back to reality. You also got pissed at "thetruetest" because he/she said something you didn't like--but it was the truth. It doesn't matter if she came to town to work for his mom or some shit IT STILL IS YOUR BEST FRIEND'S EX.

      Its normal to want to date a friends ex, especially at that age, we've all been there. But what separates us from the scumbags is the fact that we use common sense and take respect and trust between friends seriously.

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  • thetruetest
    13 years ago | pl

    What is wrong with you? Bringing your best friends ex along for the evening out and being surprised when he ignored her? He didn't break up with her to see her again. Unless your best friend is cool with you seeing her I wouldn't advise it because that's weird. It's like the cardinal rule of homo-social friendships that you stay away from their girlfriends unless you've been given solid verbal consent to pursue.

    You are also a moron for not knowing that she likes you. If her friends are telling you that she is really happy and encouraging you to initiate physical contact with her and you still don't get it than you fail as a friend and a potential boyfriend.

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  • jackehboy
    13 years ago | pl

    We hung out again. And over the weekend. Ended up she went an got her friend from out of town and I thought it was gonna ruin things but it helped. I did find out that she likes me. And has been told by her friends that they haven't seen her this happy forever. They said she can't stop smiling. Anyways we went on a walk and her friend was tellin me to hold her hand. But I was nervous at first so I didn't. But they all were acting stupid trying to make the situation less wierd and we all joined hands and messed around then everyone but her an me let go and we finished the walk that way. Later we went back to friends and hung. Finally got the nerve to put arm around her and started to tickle her. :) ended up hugging her goodnight cuz I didn't wanna rush. She wanted to really Hang sunday so we did for an hour cuz I had to work so we hugged bye again and she told me she didn't want me to go... It was amazing. And I called her last night to say goodnight. :D

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  • Seven
    13 years ago | pl

    First post.

    Now that that is out of the way, just loosen up.the whole, find a girl to practice with thing was A HUGE HINT. She also dropped another one by saying that she felt like she would be old and alone and that noon will date her. There were great opportunities there, but don't sweat it if you missed them. The thing is, as long as you are I contact with her you can work things out.
    I would go meet her someplace, and tell her that you feel for her, tell her that you will always love her, and that should start you dating, so long as she really was hinting, and not just being naturally suggestive (which is when women say sexy things, that they don't realize we assume to be a sign of how much they want us)

    Just take the chance, if you think she is worth it. Chances are, she is.

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