Is it normal to want to break up because she's too messy?
I have been with my current girlfriend for around 2.5 years now, and we've lived together for the past year. We in love and care for eachother quite a lot, and are generally happy together, except for this problem.
She's always been very messy and untidy, to the point of just being a bit dirty and lazy. I'm no clean freak by any means, but I always have to tell her to clean up the mess she's made, and either it takes literally days or weeks of this before she does it, or I get so annoyed I do it myself.
In the past, I've done things like offer to help her clean out her car, and then give her small goals like simply keeping it clean inside, but it doesn't seem to work. It's at the point where I won't get in her car because it's full of garbage.
Our room is constantly piled up with clothes, shoes, and other random crap on the floor, which sits there for weeks at a time, etc. It's even caused a mice problem now.
When she does the washing, it sits in the machine for days, then in the basket for days, before being put on the clothes line to dry, then it sits in the basket for weeks before being folded and put away, etc.
I clean up a mess when I make it, and try to keep things fairly tidy, which means I don't have to put off doing a huge cleanup all the time.
In my opinion, I've given her the opportunity and gentle encouragement to change this behavior, but it doesn't seem to be working.
I don't think time is an issue, I work 40 hours per week, she only works 15-20, and doesn't study, so I don't think I'm being unfair.
We're in our early-mid 20s, and I don't think I could spend the rest of my life living like this.
I feel like simply telling her that if she doesn't change, I'm going to break up with her and ask her to move out, what do you guys think?