Is it normal to want to be with a woman when you're dating a guy?

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I'm female and bisexual. I would say I'm about 90% attracted to women and 10% to men. I've been dating my boyfriend for months now, and I'm very attracted to and very, very in love with him. I foresee us having a future together. However, on occasion I find that I long to be with a woman. This confuses and troubles me, because I have no desire to leave him for a woman, nor am I any less attracted to him when I have these thoughts of being with a woman. Still, it's quite an intense urge at times. Is this normal? Should I discuss this with him? Advice would be lovely.

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago | pl

    I'm a bi male who is in a similar situation as you. I'm with a wonderful amazing girl who I know I'm going to have a future with. Sometimes though I want to be with a guy for reasons from sexual to social, but at the end of they day I'm so happy in my relationship that I could never possibly do anything to ruin it. The feelings will come and go from time to time, so just roll with it an do whatever will make you happiest in the long run.

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  • Inspector019
    12 years ago | pl

    Sometimes you feel like a nut.. Sometimes you don't. Lol

    Probably more normal than most would think.

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  • Veronica_C
    7 years ago | pl

    Hey guys trust me I am a girl and sex is just got to feel better for me not the guy

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  • TheCanadianDude
    11 years ago | pl

    This is interesting. I have wanted all my life to find a bi girl to love and respect.

    If your boyfriend truly respects you, then a 3some should be the last thing on his mind.

    If it was me and I had a gf like you, holy crap....but if you were ok with the emotional side of this...I would encourage you to go after her and have a relationship with her if that is what you want to do, I would just hope that it would not backfire and you would end up dumping me (him) :((

    The question is, why not give the 2 ladies time to each other?

    Respect their wishes and maybe, just maybe, a guy might be allowed to participate, or for me, tied up and made to watch how its done right :lol:

    Nothing in the world is more beautiful than 2 ladies locked in a loving embrace with each other !!! Girls know exactly how to please each other, it is scientific fact :)).....To be able to watch this, should be an honor, not just expected....

    just my opinion

    have a great day and good luck!!

    ps: is there any single hot bi ladies out there ?? :))

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    someone's horny

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  • stellarbella
    12 years ago | pl

    There's nothing wrong with a threesome. U may even enjoy it if your partner is mature enough to handle it. I'm married and bi n have had two threesomes n if it happens a third time my husband would just like to be present. I also have been given the ok to bring a woman home if i want to be with her. I think there are numerous possibilities in accepting and loving relationships. Just talk to him. And be true to your needs.

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  • Sexallent34
    12 years ago | pl

    The urge wont go away until you give in to it. Talk to your man and be honest about how youre feeling. If you have to take some solo time to figure things out then by all means do so. Im a gay woman and i know how you feel. I felt the same when i was still dealing with men almost 15 years ago. I longed to be with a woman every single time i was with a man. The repression affected me horribly. Good Luck to you!

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago | pl

      I have a thoery maybe you are more attracted to women and your mind is saying you infact want a women maybe if you leave him and are with a women youll be perfectly happy . No I am not telling you to leave him but I have seen this case many times and it usually ends up whatever sex they never stop thinking about is the gender they infact need and cant live without so maybe if you were with a women you would be content and could forget about men . Im not saying you should leave him becuase thats frankly sad but I have seen this happen many times before .

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago | pl

    .. I feel like you've been in my head recently.. It's like a daily fight with me. I'm more attracted to females than men (90/10 also) and sometimes I just see myself being with a female instead of my bf.
    I feel like being bisexual, you can never be happy.

    I'm not sure how to get over this because I am still fighting with it myself but I find it best to ignore the feeling. Though repressing it does have terrible side effects..

    I have talked to my bf about me being bi but he doesn't seem to care. All that he seems to think about is a threesome.. Which upsets me greatly. Not sure why men immediately think of that when a female states she is into women.

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  • Ramit10
    12 years ago | pl

    Does he know your bi? Talk to him and tell him how you feel maybe he will understand how you feel

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