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I'm 18 but I love kids so much and I've been in a relationship for the last 7 1/2 months and I really want a baby even when I see my boyfriend with his nieces and nephews it just shows me that he would be an awesome father and I love him so much ....maybe I'm thinking about things to fast ? What should I do mention it to him or just wait a year or two
Theres a reason these things are supposed to have an order. 1stmove out together(really get to know the person and what life will really be like with them) 2nd get married (commitment to the relatioshiop and future children) Then!!! Not yet. 3rd you make sure your financially stable. (So you can actually raise a child comfortably) NOW! 4th is the time to have a baby. Don't get ahead of yourself or you'll be living in a trailer with no man and a full time job that takes up all your quality time with your kid. Give it the right amount of time :)
Sweet Jesus wait! If you both don't have stable jobs and a place of your own, don't even think about it. You two have known each other less than a year and you're assuming he'd make a great father...? I wouldn't trust my children future with a man I had known 7 and a half months, just saying.
I don't think he would get up right away if we had a kid he's not use to it if we had our nieces or nephews over for the night I would get up but I love the fact knowing that my child would need me I don't mind doin that stuff but I do agree maybe I should wait awhile then talk to him about it and go from there
Well, you may have to give yours up. Or your employers won't want you anymore coz of maternity issues and after that a baby is always sick or childcare lets you down etc. Or you may love the baby so much that you don't want to go back to work.
I was with my husband 14 years before we decided to have a child. I almost died in childbirth, the child almost died, I was in hospital for a month, baby never slept a full night until he was 6 yo. It was a bloody nightmare!!
Don't bank on everything boing smoothly!
Wait til your married for at least 4 years before you consider kids. They will change your relationship forever :o( and you will have to know how he reacts to very bad stress before you have one.
Does he like his sleep or prefer getting wakened 2-3 times a night?
Keep it as a fantasy til you borrow one for a couple of weeks.
youre way in over your head and you're mind is going faster than your actual relationship! (ive had my fb account longer than you've been with that guy). move in with each other first, get a puppy together. you will see how he truly is, whether you mesh well together living with one another, and how he is with the pet and if hes taking any initiative and responsibility. just cuz hes good with the short lived playtime with the kids in his family does NOT mean he'll have your back for the difficult parts which is 90% of your kids life. also ENJOY YOUR YOUTH! ITLL BE OVER BEFORE YOU KNOW IT! nothing cute about a 40yo with a Csection scar club hoppin.