Bullying is a serous issue, where most people cant just walk away. Whether at work or at school you eventually have to share the same office, classroom e.t.c with them. If someone is intent on making life hell they will seek you out to do it.
I also don't understand how a friend isn't supposed to care about your feelings. I would have to ask my friend before I start going after a woman he has a crush on.
He expected more from people he called his friends, he has the right to. Try to understand that if it were as trivial as you make it out to be he wouldn't be asking us for our opinion.
He explains himself to be a part of the group, not just a victim of the group. By him being part of the group he is making it possible and easier for it to happen. Removing himself from the group would either stop the bullying or make it less accuring.
So your point here is "Don't walk away from the group, because the bullying will just continue"? How does that help at all? Atleast my point would be a change that oculd lead to it stopping.
Well perhaps he liked her more? Perhaps she liked the person she's with now for a long time too? Are two people supposed to not be happy just because one person wanted the girl? Make three people unhappy because of one person?
He expects people he has been with for a while to change from their average behavior? Obviously if they won't then it's him that needs to make the change, because the others won't.
It is trivial when the person hasn't even tried to remove himself from the group bullying him. Why should people try to help him when he won't even try to help himself?
I think you may have misunderstood. He *was* friends with one of the group. But now he's having to take sh*t from them.
And don't quote me on something I didn't say. He is free to walk away *IF HE CAN*. All I said was there are situations where we have to be in the same environment.
" Whether at work or at school you eventually have to share the same office, classroom e.t.c with them".
see the difference?
honestly just read the OP's post and my post again.
He "was" friends with "one" of them, that doesn't mean he left the group entirely. Where does it state here that he has left the group? All it states is that he has fallen out with one of them, and he doesn't even explain himself to have cut him out of his life, just that he doesn't consider him a friend anymore.
Yes, he may not be allowed to change enviroment, that doesn't mean he isn't allowed to change group. Obviously you haven't taken anything I said into consideration. Your whole point implies that because he can't change enviroment, he should look for a different group to get in to, and because he won't escape them entirely, he shouldn't even try get out the group.
I did read the post and your comment, it's you that is saying he has said things that he clearly hasn't.
You were done when you posted your first comment and after I replied to you, don't insinuate that you had any proven point here.
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What do you want us to do about it? Just leave the group. Why would you be in a group like that then complain about it when you can just leave it?
Also, maybe that friend liked her just as much as you. You can't have "dibs" on someone, this isn't How I met you mother.
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Why do you assume he can just "leave it".
Bullying is a serous issue, where most people cant just walk away. Whether at work or at school you eventually have to share the same office, classroom e.t.c with them. If someone is intent on making life hell they will seek you out to do it.
I also don't understand how a friend isn't supposed to care about your feelings. I would have to ask my friend before I start going after a woman he has a crush on.
He expected more from people he called his friends, he has the right to. Try to understand that if it were as trivial as you make it out to be he wouldn't be asking us for our opinion.
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He explains himself to be a part of the group, not just a victim of the group. By him being part of the group he is making it possible and easier for it to happen. Removing himself from the group would either stop the bullying or make it less accuring.
So your point here is "Don't walk away from the group, because the bullying will just continue"? How does that help at all? Atleast my point would be a change that oculd lead to it stopping.
Well perhaps he liked her more? Perhaps she liked the person she's with now for a long time too? Are two people supposed to not be happy just because one person wanted the girl? Make three people unhappy because of one person?
He expects people he has been with for a while to change from their average behavior? Obviously if they won't then it's him that needs to make the change, because the others won't.
It is trivial when the person hasn't even tried to remove himself from the group bullying him. Why should people try to help him when he won't even try to help himself?
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I think you may have misunderstood. He *was* friends with one of the group. But now he's having to take sh*t from them.
And don't quote me on something I didn't say. He is free to walk away *IF HE CAN*. All I said was there are situations where we have to be in the same environment.
" Whether at work or at school you eventually have to share the same office, classroom e.t.c with them".
see the difference?
honestly just read the OP's post and my post again.
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He "was" friends with "one" of them, that doesn't mean he left the group entirely. Where does it state here that he has left the group? All it states is that he has fallen out with one of them, and he doesn't even explain himself to have cut him out of his life, just that he doesn't consider him a friend anymore.
Yes, he may not be allowed to change enviroment, that doesn't mean he isn't allowed to change group. Obviously you haven't taken anything I said into consideration. Your whole point implies that because he can't change enviroment, he should look for a different group to get in to, and because he won't escape them entirely, he shouldn't even try get out the group.
I did read the post and your comment, it's you that is saying he has said things that he clearly hasn't.
You were done when you posted your first comment and after I replied to you, don't insinuate that you had any proven point here.
Excellent point.