Is it normal to want sex but not go for it?

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So I've been married a little while. I'm happy with my marriage and have a daughter and another in the way. But for some reason lately I just feel like I want to talk and hang out with other women. Go out and just enjoy a good movie, maybe even cuddle up on the couch. I think about it a lot. I even have the urge to sleep with several women. Not at once. But whenever I get to flirting a lot with a girl I cut it off for no reason and stop. Then slowly get back into it. Not sure if anyone else feels like this. Maybe it's me feeling trapped by responsibilities? I work 7 days a week and my wife and I don't get as much time together as I'd like. Is this normal?

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  • sleepingbeauty
    12 years ago | pl

    Whenever sex in a long term relationship is effected, its rarely about the sex itself, but normally about other issues. Yours is a case in point.

    I would suggest sitting down with your wife and working out a weekly timetable, it may be that she needs help with structure and establishing a routine and you can support her in doing that, just be gentle at first with how you suggest it.

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    • seali001
      12 years ago | pl

      I agree with you, especially if she is young...She may have moved right out of parents house where she never had to do anything. I would do as beauty advised, but if she is just unwilling then you need to move on and find an equal partner. If she is just lazy you will begin to resent her for it, if she is just young give her a chance to learn.

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  • BlackHawkmjb
    12 years ago | pl

    Und here. Sorry hit submit accidentally! I tried talking to her. But she refuses to talk about it. She says it stresses her out. So we ignore the issues til next month... Hurray! :/

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    • bigtoy
      11 years ago | pl

      I know where you are coming from. My wife is just the same and I really would like to feel appreciated for all the things I do while she does almost nothing. I think you are seeking others because you want to find someone who would work as hard as you do, whether at home or at a job.

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  • BlackHawkmjb
    12 years ago | pl

    Yeah, she was living with the rents before me. She still thinks she has almost no responsibilities aro

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  • BlackHawkmjb
    12 years ago | pl

    I appreciate the positive feedback. Unfortunately that won't solve this problem. I spend tons of money on her weekly! She is a stay at home mom. Which is fine with me, but she doesn't really do anything around the house. The house is always a disaster, the dishes are never done, she rarely does the laundry, and I have to pick up after her. Not to mention I do the yard work, the trash, and odds and ends here and there. Plus I work 7 days a week just to have her be at home. Which I wouldn't mind so much if she did the work at home. But I work all the time then I have to come home to work some more. Seems pretty insane to me! Anyways, I know this is kind of dragging on, but it's all the truth. Maybe it's that I don't feel appreciated enough that I want to move on but I can't. :/ any other ideas?

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