There are more people into that sort of thing than you might think. The important part is to make sure you have a partner that you can truly trust. Also it kinda takes the spontenatity out of it but you should thoroughly negotiate every part of the activity. Some people also use safe words like something you say that means stop but isn't a word you might normally use becos part of the scene might be you fighting back and saying stop but that's not what you really want so you need a different word something not at related to what your doing. Other people use green yellow red. Red is stop now. Yellow is like maybe slow it up a bit and definitely don't go more intense or it can even mean like a little pause so you can evaluate how you feel. You don't usually need to say green accept to come back to everything is ok keep going.
Another part a lot of people neglect is called aftercare a submissive can experience some pretty intense emotions and will sometimes need an hour or more of holding and cuddling. Theres a thing called subspace which is a mental place that is peaceful and can be addictive cos its kinda like being high. Coming back from subspace can be very emotional so its something that shouldn't be neglected.
And everything needs to be consensual no one should have anything done to them that they don't want and no one should do something to someone else if they aren't comfortable doing it. Some activities can even be pretty dangerous if the dom doesn't know what he or she is doing. I've seen nerve damage from rope play that was done by a dom that didn't know he was doing so be careful.
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There are more people into that sort of thing than you might think. The important part is to make sure you have a partner that you can truly trust. Also it kinda takes the spontenatity out of it but you should thoroughly negotiate every part of the activity. Some people also use safe words like something you say that means stop but isn't a word you might normally use becos part of the scene might be you fighting back and saying stop but that's not what you really want so you need a different word something not at related to what your doing. Other people use green yellow red. Red is stop now. Yellow is like maybe slow it up a bit and definitely don't go more intense or it can even mean like a little pause so you can evaluate how you feel. You don't usually need to say green accept to come back to everything is ok keep going.
Another part a lot of people neglect is called aftercare a submissive can experience some pretty intense emotions and will sometimes need an hour or more of holding and cuddling. Theres a thing called subspace which is a mental place that is peaceful and can be addictive cos its kinda like being high. Coming back from subspace can be very emotional so its something that shouldn't be neglected.
And everything needs to be consensual no one should have anything done to them that they don't want and no one should do something to someone else if they aren't comfortable doing it. Some activities can even be pretty dangerous if the dom doesn't know what he or she is doing. I've seen nerve damage from rope play that was done by a dom that didn't know he was doing so be careful.