Is it normal to want revenge like this?

It's been 10 years since I was at high school, where I was bullied horribly. At first I tried to get over it and live my life, but now I've got an itch to get even.

They say revenge is a dish best served cold. 10 years seems cold enough. The bullies probably have careers and marriages now, ripe for the ruining. If I'm careful, I could wreck their lives. What should I do?

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  • Yeah, and if you do this to them, which may not be careful at al, they could ruin your life 10X more. You don't expect the people you were a victim to to stay the way they were back then? If they continued their victimizing ways, they would of become better at doing so.

    It's a likely case that by going to try get revenge, you will of been a victim in teenage life, now a victim in adult life.

    Cases like this aren't like the movies, where a bullied kid somehow is more capable of seeking revenge. The truth is, if they haven't stopped their ways, they would of become far better at doing it.

    I don't recommend it.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    I say... not normal.

    It's been 10 years. Seriously. If you aren't over it by now you should consider talking to a therapist.

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  • AdolfHitler

    I vould hook up muffler to ze air intake of ze house. Yesssss... in ze oven ze juden!

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    • Unvortunately, none of zem vere Junden-schwein.

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  • For a start don't post it on the internet!!!!!

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  • Ldizzy1234

    I think Angel has a point. But it is normal that we all remember things, but at least try to forget about it. Worrying about how their lives are these days, and what kind of ways you can get even with them is pointless. Its really not worth it. Karma will probably take care of them anyway. Just work on trying to make YOUR life better. Then when your life is better then their lives, you can look back and smile. A big one. :)

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  • Taint

    Become really successful, then tie them up and butfuck them with a bunch of dildos take pictures and post it anonymously around town! Then give yourself a pat on the back and say well done! 100% Guaranteed happiness for life.

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  • Corleone

    Just be awesome. Let that be your revenge. If you manage to become successful they'll feel stupid for treating you that way.
    But don't ruin their lives. That's a level you shouldn't stoop to. You're better than that.

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  • Wear the grudge like a crown

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  • GOODCHILD

    Talk to a therapist

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  • RoseIsabella

    I think it's somewhat normal to want revenge on someone that hurt you but do you really want to end up in prison? Do you know what they do to guys in prison? They don't use KY Jelly or Astroglide in the big house either.

    The thing with the knives is kinda messed up there Bro. If they aren't using knives it's psycho move to use them. It probably would have been better if you had just learned some martial arts. I took Tae Kwon Do for a year when I was in high school and I loved it.

    I'm not trying to insult you or bum you out but it probably would help you to see a therapist and work through this. Your anger and unforgiveness isn't hurting anyone but you. Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting your enemy to die. Getting help is nothing to be ashamed of my friend. I'm pretty sure at least half the people on IIN are insane and on medication for something or other. Besides, you ain't gotta tell no damn body if you decide to see a shrink. Just don't do something stupid and end up in jail over bullshit.

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  • DLois

    Why are you living in the painful past of ten years ago? The damage is already done. Fuck it - it doesn't matter now It mattered 10 yrs. ago
    Move forward I do understand as I was a victim of bully's once as well Get busy with today looking back will not help you feel better you need a healthy release or outpost to use that (understandable) anger towards your benefit Art-music-writing/ write it all down and burn it to help you if helpful or maybe a support group or start your own. You can heal

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  • mr.hmm

    I really know what you are talking about. Highschool re-union, in the rafters with an ak47; Knock, knock, "hi, remember me?", bang! Kind of stuff.

    I was mentally ill for a while, I was in recovery, went back into school and had a nervous breakdown for 3 years because they just would not stop, you can't even defend yourself because your brain just freezes. I decided to leave when my memory was shot, I was confused to hell, getting fear from nowhere and rocking back and forth. Came out of school traumatized to hell.

    I normalised after leaving but then it started hitting me again, from nowhere.

    I now have severe mental health issues, way worse than before, that have ruined my life thusfar.

    I was clever too, "I've never seen grades like this" clever. My mind is now mush.

    The anger does not serve your cause though. It just causes you pain. It will also cause others pain if you kill anyone. I do, also, understand that anger makes you not give a damn.

    I say this, revenge is not true justice, fixing your mind is. You don't deserve anger crushing your soul and blood on your hands - how is that just to you?

    Get fixed, get mental health services involved.

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  • ethan.the.hunt

    I feel yeah. Bullying can really effect someone for a LONG time. I would say its normal to WANT to get revenge, but the right thing to do would to talk about it with someone and try and relieve the stress

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  • OhGodWhy

    It was highschool. 10 years ago. Forgive and forget. Those kids were also not thinking straight because it's highschool year. Give them a break...

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  • BigScaryRooster

    You're a grown man(or woman). You should've just put the past away. Letting it consume you for 10 years is ridiculous. Chances are they aren't even bullies anymore. Go see a psychologist and get your life straightened out before you throw your life away doing something you'll regret.

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  • bumblecreek

    you made the devastating mistake of not confronting this issue ten years earlier, now you're holding it as a grudge. seek help as soon as possible, like a psychiatric doctor. these things are unhealthy.

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  • coffeebreath

    Seriously, the best revenge is to do nothing at all. Bullies behave the way they do because it makes them feel like they have power over you. If you react, they have won. Even ten years later.

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  • I think it's time too let go... But I understand that yoo want to get revenge, bullies are nasty wastes of space. X

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  • Darkoil

    You shouldn't have been a little bitch and stood up to them at the time, pathetic.

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    • If you look at Darkoil's profile, you'll see one of the most ineptly photoshopped pictures on the entire internet.

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      • Darkoil

        Actually il take that as a compliment, thanks. :-)

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        • RoseIsabella

          Hahaha...but what's up with the pic of the headless body? It always creeps me out when people put up pics without showing their faces. Of course I'm thinking of putting up a pic of just and eyeball which may actually prove über creepy.

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      • You are just jealous of Darkoil, he probably resembles the jocks that beat you up all the time.

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    • Standing up to them got me suspended. All my knives were confiscated. The headmaster said that if I was involved in one more fight he'd involve the police.

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