Well my son can't brag about being lower income. We are upper middle class. My wife and I both finished college and we worked to save up for a house, back when you could still do that, and we bought our first place and had our first kid and I experienced enough success in my career for our kids to be raised in a nice home with a full time mother. My wife is a great lady with a good head on her shoulders and wouldn't dare conceive a child if she had any doubt in her mind as to how she would provide for her children. The world is cruel to children from low income families.
We have spent countless nights discussing what we did wrong. He just came home from school one day and told us that we were trying to shove Jesus down his throat and brainwashing him with religion and lies. The curious part is that we never made our kids go to church if they didn't want to. We encouraged freedom of thought in our home, and two of our kids did stay home on Sundays from the time they were old enough to legally do so and one of our kids is still an atheist and when she visits she still stays home on Sunday morning.
We're not yokels or ignorant old folk by any means. We understand that America is not the same country we were raised in and that is, in many ways, a positive thing. While we understand that what we are as a family is not what is defined as the only definition of family anymore, we still hold the belief that parents should work hard to give their kids a better life than they had and kids should work hard to have that better life afforded to them. He's been at this for about four years now and I'll start talking to my wife again about how to get him the hell out.
I didn't mean to insinuate that you were yokels or bad parents if I did. It sounds to me like you provided a great life for your kids, and raised two successful well adjusted offspring.
My beef lies exclusively with the "juggalo" lifestyle. It started as a community of acceptance for lower income and under-privileged people, and has turned into a group of people who strive for that. They made it "cool" to accomplish nothing in life apart from smoking pot and crashing in your den. They have established a strong idea of who "the man" is, and instilled it in peoples heads that they have to fight a constant battle against said "man".
The point stays valid that you have to do something about this, or you will be stuck with a permanent live in. I have no parenting experience myself so you are the authority in this matter. If I was in your shoes, there would be a specific move out date set, and continued efforts to get him employed. You can only do so much before he has to be held accountable for his lifestyle!
Is it normal to want my son OUT OF THE HOUSE!?
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Well my son can't brag about being lower income. We are upper middle class. My wife and I both finished college and we worked to save up for a house, back when you could still do that, and we bought our first place and had our first kid and I experienced enough success in my career for our kids to be raised in a nice home with a full time mother. My wife is a great lady with a good head on her shoulders and wouldn't dare conceive a child if she had any doubt in her mind as to how she would provide for her children. The world is cruel to children from low income families.
We have spent countless nights discussing what we did wrong. He just came home from school one day and told us that we were trying to shove Jesus down his throat and brainwashing him with religion and lies. The curious part is that we never made our kids go to church if they didn't want to. We encouraged freedom of thought in our home, and two of our kids did stay home on Sundays from the time they were old enough to legally do so and one of our kids is still an atheist and when she visits she still stays home on Sunday morning.
We're not yokels or ignorant old folk by any means. We understand that America is not the same country we were raised in and that is, in many ways, a positive thing. While we understand that what we are as a family is not what is defined as the only definition of family anymore, we still hold the belief that parents should work hard to give their kids a better life than they had and kids should work hard to have that better life afforded to them. He's been at this for about four years now and I'll start talking to my wife again about how to get him the hell out.
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I didn't mean to insinuate that you were yokels or bad parents if I did. It sounds to me like you provided a great life for your kids, and raised two successful well adjusted offspring.
My beef lies exclusively with the "juggalo" lifestyle. It started as a community of acceptance for lower income and under-privileged people, and has turned into a group of people who strive for that. They made it "cool" to accomplish nothing in life apart from smoking pot and crashing in your den. They have established a strong idea of who "the man" is, and instilled it in peoples heads that they have to fight a constant battle against said "man".
The point stays valid that you have to do something about this, or you will be stuck with a permanent live in. I have no parenting experience myself so you are the authority in this matter. If I was in your shoes, there would be a specific move out date set, and continued efforts to get him employed. You can only do so much before he has to be held accountable for his lifestyle!