If he is content playing xbox, getting drunk and doing nothing, then why would he want to stop? He has to have incentives to change.
As long as you allow him to live off you, there's nothing motivating him to do anything different. Therefore you have to provide the incentive.
Explain how you feel to him, and then start making him as uncomfortable as possible, remove as many luxuries (that you paid/pay for) from him as possible. Don't buy him food (he can get his own). Don't allow him to use your internet (unless he pays) - you could change the password so only you and your wife know it. Give him a reason to go get a job and get out of your hair!
If he still won't budge, then resort to drastic measures.
Is it normal to want my son OUT OF THE HOUSE!?
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If he is content playing xbox, getting drunk and doing nothing, then why would he want to stop? He has to have incentives to change.
As long as you allow him to live off you, there's nothing motivating him to do anything different. Therefore you have to provide the incentive.
Explain how you feel to him, and then start making him as uncomfortable as possible, remove as many luxuries (that you paid/pay for) from him as possible. Don't buy him food (he can get his own). Don't allow him to use your internet (unless he pays) - you could change the password so only you and your wife know it. Give him a reason to go get a job and get out of your hair!
If he still won't budge, then resort to drastic measures.