Is it normal to want multiple relationships?

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Is it normal 2 have many emotional relationships going at the same time.. i am not attentionseeking, i do care for all of these guys. but i do recognise that they wouldn't see it that way. It started off with 1 guy who I think i could say i love, but he lives in another continent. We agreed to stay friends,but it is more than that. I then started liking another guy from work at the same time, who is really nice, but then i got involved with his friend too who kissed me and things got complicated. I also have strong feelings for 2 of my other good friends i've met through various diff groups, and a good family friend, and regularly dream about being with all of them. I'm dating someone too. I feel i should stress that its not just a physical thing, but more about compassionate love for them, and a need to be there for them. What is normal? How do you know who you really care for if you care for so many already?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    No one likes girls like that.

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  • nemo311
    13 years ago

    You are one huge fn slut.

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  • MarieWantsIt
    12 years ago

    Everything and anything is normal. When I was in my early 20s my friend and I used to have sex dares. I'd dare her to seduce a certain guy. She dared me to have sex with a different man, every day for seven days. I didn't manage it, but I came close. Be comfortable with your sexuality and enjoy it. It is a glorious thing. I'm married and settled down now, but I needed my libertine years.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Completely normal. But honestly just don't act on the feelings. You're better off single if you like a lot of people. I personally am the same but resist because I love my girlfriend

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  • TyLee
    13 years ago

    Yes it's normal like ollieo said it's called dating guys are so over jealous and get mad but they are stupid. There should be nothing wrong with talking to multiple people if you are not ready to commit to a serious relationship

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  • slothmcgee
    13 years ago

    turns out i found the perfect one. choosing isn't an issue anymore, i am massively happy, 6 months later, and for the future! yay

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  • bunnyboo22
    13 years ago

    The same thing kinda happend to me but with only 2 guys and it ended really bad... Just be carefull !

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  • macaroni
    14 years ago

    I agree it's called dating unless you are in a serious relationship with someone then u would be considered a cheater if u kept on.

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  • platypuspie
    14 years ago

    Yes it is! It's called polyamory. In polyamorous relationships though, everyone knows about all the partners and no one gets hurt. You should come out as poly ASAP or be forced to choose one partner, but either is fine.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I think it's normal too.
    As long as none of the people you are dating think that they have an exclusive relationship with you because that would be a deception.

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  • slothmcgee
    14 years ago

    Thanks guys. I think you are all right in different ways! It was stressing me out that I felt that I couldn't choose between them all but yes, it shouldn't be about convenience I don't know where this sudden need to pick one came from. I think i should take a step back from all of them and continue the friendships, then see if one of them feels right. Man it's hard to see your own emotions from the outside sometimes.

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  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    I think you are confusing your friendly feelings towards men with more romantic feelings. Just because a guy is nice and interesting doesn't mean you HAVE to have romantic feelings for him. Try appreciating people for who they are, and not for the fact that they are men who pay attention to you. Only then will you be able to develop TRUE feelings for ONE person. Not that there's a rush to settle down with one person. As Ollie said, have fun and date whoever you want. But really think about how you feel about someone, not just about how convenient they are at the moment.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I think this is called, in old fashioned terms: DATING. Amazed how people don't get that concept ... Anyway...

    You are circulating, dating, etc. don't feel bad about that. It is very appropriate. And besides - how are you ever supposed to meet that special "someone."

    Relax - what you are doing is perfectly normal & appropriate. Have fun!!!

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  • leahquestions
    14 years ago

    You don't know what you want yet.. Stay friends with them all, just don't get too initmate, don't lead them on-- spend time getting to them and then pick one...

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  • Galezilla
    14 years ago

    That's not normal and you're going to end up seriously hurting someone. You need to end this before it's too late.

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  • kellstar
    13 years ago

    Unless she is sleeping with them all
    nemo311 then she is not a slut! Like the other poster said, its called dating. Y is there a need to be so harsh on here?

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