Is it normal to want friends but not want them?

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All the way up until highschool I only had one friend. I was very well liked but I just couldn't seem to get that close to others in my grade. Then in highschool I met a bunch of new people through her and my sister and had a ton of friends. Once we graduated I dumped my best friend because she was toxic (she constantly made fun of me, told me she didn't like me as much as our other friends, that I was annoying, etc.). Because she had been the core of our group I kinda lost contact with all of them as well. I've honestly tried to reconnect with some of them but if I'm not putting forth all the effort (calling, arranging plans) I never see them. I currently have only one real friend, a guy I met my first semester of college. Lately I feel like he's annoyed with me/finds me clingy because he's my only friend. I really do want to find more friends and connect with people. I'm lonely and I hate not having anything to do if my bff can't come over, or I'm not in a relationship. But at the same time I don't want to have friends. I've been hurt over and over again by people who called themselves my friend. I also hate putting forth the effort. I work full time and go to school full time, so I'm usually really busy. As I said I usually seem to be the only one putting forth effort into friendships and I just don't have the energy. Is this normal? And what should I do?

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  • GlassDarkly31
    11 years ago

    Who needs friends?

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  • theewiccachick
    11 years ago

    I've been in your shoes before, no body seemed to like me no matter what I did. So I became what people didn't want, I was a bitch, mean and nasty to everyone. And it actually worked for me; but I dont suggest you do what I did. Please try and look up, things will get better. I promise!

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  • cheesey_jelly
    13 years ago

    This isnormal. In fact I am going through the same situation. I suggest going somewhere where you might find people you connect with. It's all up to you. Be sure to keep your friend that you have now, and don't bury yourself in lonliness. Embrace life rather than neglect it. You are not lonely. There is someone out there for you. just keep looking. I promise everything will be okay xx. When times are tough, make sure you have someone to look to for help. At the moment you're looking in a mirror, change to a window. I hope that helped :D

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Yes, I had a friend who found another friend and just dumped me. So I didn't have 1 friend, and was always picked at. I felt like killing him but missed him also.

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